my boyfirend of 3 weeks keeps talking about the people he has slept with in the past! and when he tells me he will fone me he never does and comes up with a silly excuse! i only see him 4 days out of the week because he stays an hour away from me! am only 16 an hes 21 on friday! Is there something hes not telling me? please help me should i end it?
2006-12-20 23:31:11 · 28 answers · asked by natalie g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am very sorry to hear this for you...i met my ex when she was 15 and i was turning 18, we ended up being together for 3 years, but it was like that too, i never called her and i was busy, guys like their space, and that you should give to him. but if he is telling u about the girls he has slept with, honey im 21 and that's a jackass thing to do! you dont do that, it seems to me like he wants to use you for something, and im pretty sure u can figure out what. 3 weeks is nothing, u deserve better than that, try three years and then be ditched by the same person u had a "UMMM...IDK" feeling about, it sucks, get out now and ull thank urself later...hope this helps
2006-12-20 23:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not necessarily be cheating but it is strange that he is making silly excuses not to see you. Maybe he thinks that as its Christmas he wants to spend more time with his friends and he doesn't want to upset you and this is the reason why he is making up excuses.
However having said that why does he keep talking about all the people that he has slept with. I would suggest that you talk to him and tell him that you don't want to know all about the people that he has slept with and that you don't appreciate being lied to, tell him that if he doesn't want to come and see you, be straight with you don't make up silly excuses. However if after the chat things don't improve then consider leaving him you are young and you will quite easily find someone else that wants to be with you and will not make excuses
2006-12-20 23:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is playing you, it sounds as though he only once you because you are young and he knows that he can make an excuse to you and you will fall for it. he is cheating with you most definitly get rid of him hun you are 16 experiment with a guy your age or someone who is decent not out for what he can get and there are plenty more guys out there for you. you might think that you like him but its not the feelings you feel when you get older and meet the man of your dreams and then look back on how you had been used by this little boy who is playing games with your mind. the thing is this could effect you in the future and it will be hard to trust again if you find out he is cheating on you.
2006-12-21 00:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by kjw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too old for you! Older guys are usually thinking about one thing to do with younger girls. He's already telling what he's been up to with other girls he's dated ... you willing to be next on the list? At 16, seeing him "only" 4 days a week is too much ... aren't you in school? Where are your parents? You need to end your relationship with that guy right away and b tch-slap your parents for not caring more about what you're up to!
2006-12-20 23:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. He may be incredibly insecure which is why he keeps telling you that he's slept with so many people (maybe trying to show to you that people find him attractive when he questions it himself . . . he's not truthful, is what I'm saying).
Regarding not calling you. That's inexcusable. I would strongly consider ending it not because of your suspicions, which are just that, but end it because he's disrespecting you. You deserve to be treated like an equal, not as a second thought.
Hang in there!
2006-12-20 23:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is probably a lot that he's not telling you. Also, if he is bragging to you about all of the girls that he's slept with, then he is probably not going to be any different with you. He sounds like a 21 year old pervert who wants to sleep with a 16 year old. Drop him.
2006-12-20 23:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by 2ndammendmentsupporter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 21, there's loads of other exciting things to be doing at that age as well as having a girlfriend.
2006-12-20 23:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, god, yes.
If he's bragging about a promiscuous past already, he's promiscuous.
If he doesn't phone you, he's inconsiderate.
If he's 21 and you're 16, then this is wrong. You're a child, and he's obviously an immature adult. Maybe even a rapist.
End it now.
2006-12-20 23:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by TimmyD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and have a talk with him about your fears. If you feel that it still isnt resolved, you could dump him but dont jump to conclusions if you arent 100% sure and havent spoken to him. Tell him you demand some respect, if he doesnt call, dont wait around, tell him you will call him. ect.
2006-12-20 23:33:54 · answer #9 · answered by brunelscooby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, Natali,
We as human beings must rely on our feelings, if your feeling say that you must change this relation do it strait away with out thinking what is the results, this life is very short to spend our time with nothing, do what is useful to your feeling.
2006-12-20 23:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by eagel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋