He moved all the way from Tampa to Kentucky. Of course, I don't think he was satisfied with his life there, anyway. I kind of get the feeling that he just wants a home.....not necessarily a close relationship.
I feel bad for him that he moved this far. I feel too guilty to kick him out. But, the truth is....he just isn't the one for me. And, I don't think I am exactly what he wants, either. Yet, he seems so content just to have a roof and be in a family environment. I feel sorry for him.
What am I gonna do????
2006-12-20 22:15:20 · 9 answers · asked by treefrog 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Show him this post.
2006-12-20 22:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honesty will solve your problem as well as relieve your guilt. If it's a roof and family enviroment he wants don't you think he deserves stability in those from a girl who does want to be with him? You're not actually doing him any favors by settling into a relationship that is less than content knowing it's always going to be this way,therefore just a matter of time. During the time part you're allowing him to think he's getting closer to someone when the opposite is the truth.And then what about the fact that you are allowing him to have power over you and keep you unhappy(manipulate) to try to make him happy? This is not fair to you. As long as you are not honest about your thoughts and feelings he and others will always have this power over you. Your feelings are the only ones you can truly do anything about,let him go, he will have to deal with his feelings whatever these may be and he will.You've taken that first step by being honest with yourself but honesty is a process you have to see all the way through. You will both be much better off in the long run. Good Luck
2006-12-21 06:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by eve c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are talking about as I am in a similar situation. the fact is that he is an able bodied man (i'm assuming) and is responsible for his own life. You cant feel guilty because it was his decision to move in with you. I dont know if he is paying his own way or not, but if he isnt doing his share then you know as well as I that he is using you. If he is contributing a correct amount then maybe he isnt using you but the fact still remains that he isnt what you want. Dont settle for second best. you are not free to find the right guy while he is living with you, so you need to do the right thing and make yourself happy. he is a big boy and can take care of himself.
Now if only I could take my own advice......its easier to sit here and type this than it is to actually do something about it! Good luck to you.
2006-12-21 06:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you just typed out right there, like that person said, there is no easy way out. If you dont say anything, then you will just be miserable on yahoo questions seeking answers. Kick the freeloader out and find a decent man whom you cherish
2006-12-21 06:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by flyin_gsxr600 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a girl who took a two by four and wacked herself in the face with it and when the cops got there she told them that he did it and got him arrested. He got 90 days and she got a protection order against him, and he could'nt even retrieve his belongins...
2006-12-21 06:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down & have a heart to heart talk & go from there.
2006-12-21 06:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by nbr660 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth. tell him he has 2 go!!
2006-12-21 15:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by thesunnshynne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
free trog
2006-12-21 06:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by Rob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him...no other way out....
2006-12-21 06:17:52 · answer #9 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋