What should i do?

Question

What should i do?
i am 20 and my parents are highly overprotective of me and i just cant talk it out of their heads... its really really really stifling and i feel gagged. i cant move out because of the same reasons and the fact that i belong to a higher class family(according to them) and by december 2007 when i finish my studies, i will get a very good job. till then i gotto suffer. i wanna do some further studies but again they look down upon me. i became the president of my college, my mum said i wouldnt be able to handle it, but i proved them wrong. i am getting an internship in Russia, my parents say its too cold for me to go there. when i took up my current course in environmental science they said i couldnt do it. all the guys in my life are scrutinized with respect to marriage which is irritating.
i cant take this anymore. everything i do is scrutinized. i just gotto survive till dec 07. i love them.. but sometimes... its not good. what should i do?

i cannot move out before dec 07
and everytime i talk of moving out, i am made to feel guilty of all the things they are providing me and how irresponsible i am.

i cannot move out before dec 07
and everytime i talk of moving out, i am made to feel guilty of all the things they are providing me and how irresponsible i am.

Answer 1

hey guess what, im 23 yo and im still with my parents and im taking my 2nd degree now (because they wanted me to do so) and the latest time i can go home is around 12 midnight (modern cinderella)...

i used to be like you, always looking forward to be alone, independent, discover the world on my own. but you know what i learned? without my parents guidance, there's a great chance of becoming a failure. think about it, all the hard work u did and all the sacrifices they made will just be wasted...

maybe u have an issue with your parents other than you moving out of your house? maybe u could try to find out what makes u so unhappy being right under their supervision? trying communicating with them in a very settled way.

i know a lot of my friends who are living alone and you know what they told me when i was also dying to move out? im so lucky to have such a supportive family who'll always be there for me.... they dont have that... all they could wish is to be in my, our shoes even just in one day. think about it...

Answer 2

Unfortunately their overprotective behavior will never cease, no matter how far away your are. I'm a few years older then you and I still live at home for school, and I get the same treatment I did when I was in high school. Look at it this way you have been with them 20 yrs, you only have one year left. You can handle it, when its all said and done you will look back and wish you still lived with them, and then when you visit you will remember how it was and want to leave. All in all its the way of life. Just breathe, Baby!

Answer 3

... If the situation is so difficult just try to accept it like life trial. I mean that sometimes in such way life is giving us a lesson or sometimes even keeping us from some problems that may appear. But any way if you are realy borried with such behaviour of your parents just try to accept it like army service etc. you have less than year left it is not too much ;) and by the way tell your parents that Russia is big and there are many warm places :)

Answer 4

U r doing right by proving your parents that u can do wat they say u cant i would be proud of u.Just bear with it dont give up on your studies. Its only a year. Do your farther studies they should be proud of u. Good luck.