we have 3 childern togther and he did this to me when i was caring the last baby. i forgave him and i put it past me but now i am mad as all hell. its been a year since and the anger is just growing. please tell me something to help me i would love to put it past me but its not working
2006-12-20 21:08:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It might sound easy for me to say i can imagine what you are going through but dear ,life is not a huncky dory.But do not forget you are a lucky woman,you have three loving children who will follow your footstep and speak for you ,you have a future that you can relive through your children,your husband does not .you deserve better than him.Move on and forget about him if you have decided to forgive him.you did nothing wrong so be happy and put the bad memories behind you.
I hope i have been of some help and i wish you all the best.
2006-12-20 21:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by winta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what happens when you make babies before you make a committment - marriage. He owes you nothing. The person you need to deal with is yourself. You are the one who had 3 babies with this guy. He didn't just become a loser. He was a loser when you met him, but you either ignored the facts or hoped he would get better. That didn't work. Move on. No more babies. Raise the ones you got. Give them everything you have including a higher set of morals. Take them to church or some similar entity so that they can learn how to live a better life. Apologize to your kids for doing what you did to them (they did not ask for this). Get more education so that you can earn more and take better care of them.
2006-12-21 17:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not gotten over it and it has been a yr you most likely are not going to get over it. You can always tell someone you forgive them but it is hard to forget. I know. If you are not able to get past this then it may be time to move on. If you are always mad it can not be good you need to think about your 3 children and the way this may be affecting them. Good Luck
2006-12-21 08:09:23 · answer #3 · answered by d3midway semi-retired 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tried for a year and If it's not something you can get over then you need to move on. Cheaters don't remain cheaters. I believe people can change however, It's always your choice to sick around even if the person has. Do what you think is best. You deserve to be happy and enjoy your life in peace. I wish you the best......
2006-12-21 13:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, to forgive someone is one thing but to forget, probably not going to happen. Sounds as if you have not, in your heart truely forgivin him.. I can relate.
2006-12-21 05:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by seaking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it has been a year, and you still can't get it out of your mind, then you need to get rid of him.
2006-12-21 05:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wat has triggered this off has he done it again if not u have already forgiven him u cant go back on that.
2006-12-21 18:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋