i keep falling out with my bf and arguing with him, he is movin in to his house in 2 days with his mate and i cant help bein really jealous, i only live with my dad and have wanted to move out for ages as i am extremely unhappy at home, me and my dad dont see eye to eye and his gf has just moved in and we dont get on, now everything is like him and his friend and im sick of it. i have been with him for nearly 2 yrs and i had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago, i was going to move in with him if the pregnancy continued, which i was so happy about, and now i just feel poo! i will b going round to see him n stay over, but it wont b my house it is his and his mates. his mum is awful, so so controlling and he is such a mummys boy, and his house is like on the next road to his mums so that shud b fun! i just feel really fed up but he is so so so nice to me i really want to be with him forever, but i dont want the arguing to keep happening as im scared he will leave me if he does?
2006-12-20 20:52:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can understand why you are picking fights with your boyfriend constantly. If you want the fights to stop, you need to analyze your situation deeper. Deep down, you aren't just angry with him for moving over to his friend's place. You just feel really shortchanged because you went through so much and you understandably want your boyfriend to treat you well at this moment. You need to talk to him : Tell you how you truly feel right now about your personal life and the loss of your unborn child. If he loves you, he will comfort you and find out ways to help you feel better.
2006-12-20 21:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!
I am really sorry about the miscarriage. That must have been painful. I pray you get well soon.
Dear, I think you need to find a way to first reconcile yourself with your dad because running away from him is not going to solve your problems. You need to be courageous and caring enough to confront whatever it is that makes your dad and you not to see eye-to-eye. Otherwise, I don't think you'll have what it takes to sort out your relationship with your bf, his mum and his mate.
Charity begins at home. I don't think moving in with your bf will solve the problem because however nice he is to you, he's not perfect- there are those things about him that irritate you. You may not be able to deal with that unless you begin with your relationship with your dad.
Once beaten, twice shy. Then you'll have the skill and tact to deal with his mum and mate, etc.
Love is hard work- the fruits are unmatchable. All the best... :-)
2006-12-21 05:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Allan G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, let's just say, this is as good as it gets. When you are dating is the time when he is on his best behavior to win you. Everything else is downhill from there. The same applies to women, of course. We do our very best in the beginning, don't we? If this is his best...is it good enough? Don't blame his "mum". A real man will not waffle on his loyalties. If he is a mummy's boy now...what makes you think that will ever change. You either accept it and deal with it or find someone who is into you. If you are feeling jealous, you aren't being able to think rationally.
I am sorry for your miscarriage. You sound like a nice person, you should find someone who adores you and doesn't make you feel 3rd or 4th choice or else you will always be so.
2006-12-21 05:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anathema 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually I write very insensitive answers. This time I will try to be honest and sincere. If you just had a miscarriage (Sorry to hear that) and he is moving in to his own place. In the back of his mind he is thinking that he dodged the bullet. He is also thinking that this is an opportunity to clear the slate and start fresh.
If you aren't happy living apart. Living together won't fix things.
Good luck,
Poopy
2006-12-21 05:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by poopy pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for ur arguments, u need to specify what is it about. Arguments are sometimes good...depending on what ur arguing about and how u take it...cos u might learn something from it and also if u both can handle the arguments, then i wld say u might not get divorce that easily....most people who can't handle it solve it by divorcing. As for stopping ur argument, it depends on both u and ur bf's character...both shld know whose right or wrong, give n take and dun argue over small matters...talk to each other about it and try solving it amicably...that's all the advise i can think of for now. Cheers!!
2006-12-21 04:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like it is time for you to move along. Stand on your own and forget the boys. Keep your legs closed and focus on your education. If not that then you will always be someones door mat. Is that what you desire out of life?
develop your own self then bigger better Men will or may desire you.
2006-12-21 04:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by peterfrady 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's the question?
all things happen for a reason...pave your own road if you don't like the one your on
2006-12-21 04:58:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why dont you move away and start afresh some place else!!!
new year - new beginning!
2006-12-21 04:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
MOVE OUT AND GET A PLACE OF YOUR OWN.
2006-12-21 04:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~ISABELLA~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get someone that deserves you not someone who wants his Mommy!
2006-12-21 04:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋