What should I do?? This is the third time I'm asking this..help!!?

Question

For the past two years I've been to church and have had a crush on this alterboy. It's been a year now that we have been exchanging our looks in church, and while he was at the alter! God forgive me but I try not to look at him. I'm older than him I think...he looks like he is 20. Just guessing there.... but I feel that there is an attraction between us.........None of us ever made the move, how could we? We are in church? By the time mass is over, it's time for me to go home before he can get changed.....what should I do? It's like a never ending game we're playing....I look at you and you look at me.....but nobody can to make the move..... What can I do?? Please advice....I can't stop thinking about him!!

Answer 1

There is only one way out about it is to just let him know that you love him some how the other.

See write your number on a slip and write that i want to talk to you, atleast you are smart enough to take his attention on the slip and make sure whereever you put he gets to see it clearly so he can pick it up.

Answer 2

The doctor is in... No serously your going to have to make the first move here miss. He's ethere shy or younger than you think. there are ways to do this but you left out your restrictions. Do you have to leave with your family when mass is over? you should come real early before the set up for mass? Depending on your answer to the questions above. You should try to come early or stick around later. If your shy write a note that breaks the ice and lets him know your interested. He'll aproach you when he's thought of what to say. If can't do the two suggestions above still write note and find a way to slip it to him or someone else that has excess to him. If he goes to the bath room go to the bath room also and slip him the note. If you know his name you should be able to easily slip the note to some one who knows him preferrably a guy. A girl may have a eye for him and not give him your note at all. Hope it helps. Leave little more detail next time on what you can't do okay? Of coarse even though he finds you attractive he could already have a girlfriend, a year is a looong time to weight to make a move for both of you.

Answer 3

make a church activity were people your age goes out and does something fun like an amusement park or bowling then see how it goes if he doesn't make a move and he just sits there and you cant still tell there is something between you two say something be honest with him go up to him and say that you have to know if he feels the say way he cant get mad or werioded out on you if your being totally honest but he have fun don't let yourself get too worked up over this when the time is right maybe God has something planed for you two

Answer 4

Is it possible to have someone deliver a message to him that you'd like to say hi and maybe have a cup of coffee? If you feel safe to do so, you might include a phone number or email address.

If you have a minute or two before church, there's probably a place he goes to put on the garments, and so a willing soul might leave a note there for him (ideally in a sealed envelope for everyone's privacy).

Oh and by the way; don't worry about God being angry. Thanks to the human life of Jesus, He knows about all that; He understands (and He's the one who gave us these damnable hormones anyway)!

Good luck!

Answer 5

Well...if you do nothing...anther year will pass and the two of you will still be playing peek-a-bo. On the other hand you don't want to be disrepectful...it is church, not some sort of hook up center. And you don't want to look like a stalker...but why not, as the other person suggested, come early or stay late. You could just tell him "I've been wanting to talk with you..." or something...
Well however it goes, my best wishes.

Answer 6

Do u really have to go home right after church? Can't u wait for him to change and ask? If he doesn't wanna make the first move, maybe u cld? Tell him that u like him now rather then it's too late...in this lifetime, it doesn't have to be the guy that make the first move anymore...so go go go!!!

Answer 7

Your answer is in your question,just because you are the female does not mean you have to sit and wait for him to come to you.Just take a deep breath next time you see him and JUMP!!!!.Its just like swimming,when you are thrown in at the deep end and there is no-one but you for help,somewhere deep inside of you will come to life and you will get out of the water safe.The benefit of this is that all these eye to eye looks you both share,when u get butter-flies in your belly,will only get better

Answer 8

Try waiting for him outside after church one day, if it's possible. Approach him when he comes outside and introduce yourself. Tell him you've noticed him every week and he looks like a nice person; you'd like to get to know him - something like that. If you're too shy for that, maybe slip him a note with a similar statement and your phone number? If you can't wait after church, try to arrive early and approach him then.

Answer 9

Couldn't you just once wait around long enough for him to get changed? You can always just sort of bump into him on his way out and say, "Oh, I just had to see what you looked like without your altarboy gear on!" Smile and invite him to have coffee with you and some other people--no pressure. Whatever his answer, you won't be torturing yourself over what might have been if you had never introduced yourself.

Answer 10

Invite him and other members over for lunch. You aren't bad for liking him, its actually a good thing because both of you share the same religion. So, make your "move" before someone else does.