I am dating a girl who is hesitant to return my affection. I am a gentle lover and she is used to rough affection. She feels like she isn't well-equipped to return my gentle affection. What are some suggestions or possibly a solution to solve this problem?
2006-12-20 19:47:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I say she's hesitant to return my affection, I don't mean she's resisting my affection. I mean she hesitates to show affection towards me because she feels like she doesn't know how to do it properly.
2006-12-20 20:24:29 · update #1
Just keep being yourself. She has to get use to being treated right and she will. Reassure her of your feelings for her and tell her why you feel the way you do for her, do this often.... all of the time! She needs to hear these things. She may think that she does not deserve to be treated right, you never know what the others thru her life were like to her, how they treated her. Patience is needed most on your part sweetie and just keep treating her right and being gentle with her. She will come around.
2006-12-20 19:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would kind of back off from the relationship and find a lady who would be more responding to your techniques. If the girl you are dating now can't return your affection, maybe there are other reasons involved. I don't know. But, if you are really set on improving your relationship, I would try to "spice up" the love ventures, let her take the lead for a while. Maybe then she'll be more receptive in return. I don't think either one of you should get tired or bored if you mix it up a bit.
2006-12-20 19:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I experienced this once. I just moved on. She gave me head one night after work and the next day said she was surprised at how gentile I was with her. It was a frigin bj! I always thought that was a passive experience. I guess she wanted me to slam her against the wall and fuc k her face till she puked then shoot all over her face. I can't do that. Sex has to be awesome. With a problem like this, I think the relationship is doomed. You might think about ending it unless you can actually get into it with her.
2006-12-20 19:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by fabrat1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's not used to being treated right. i guess what you mean by "rough" is right,..right?then..make her feel loved and she'll respond to you in time..its instinct for a girl to return affection but we need time...women are generally very affectionate and sentimental...they just show this "tough/rough" side to protect themselves from getting hurt...
2006-12-20 21:21:27 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ hOnEy ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Try to be less gentle and a little more rough, but just don't overdo it !
2006-12-20 19:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by Baby Doll. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, Just get yourself a pair of brass knuckles
2006-12-20 19:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by g_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont understand...she is hesitant to return your affection'?
How's that go? you caress her arm and she wants to hit you? or what? hehe I dont understand! good luck with that
2006-12-20 20:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn. This sounds really familiar.
Best I can say is compromise. Ask her what she wants, tell her what you want, and find a middle ground.
2006-12-20 19:49:32 · answer #8 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rough?
2006-12-20 19:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....just keep doing what you are doing and perhaps with time she will learn to trust that what you are doing is real.....or she may never adjust and you may have to move on with your life without her...good luck
2006-12-20 19:50:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋