with another chick. Feeling stuck in this on again off again engagement. Trying to forgive him. Its makin me sick. I wanna
give Malik some time... Not sleep with him. But I wanna call him
and have a cappuccino or bottled water at the internet cafe.
Ya know.....cause I don't want to be the good girl anymore.
He's cheated 9 times over 6 yrs and I was taught to forgive.
I don't cheat so I'm feeling some guilt over wanting to talk to
Malik...What would you do??
2006-12-20 19:36:45 · 18 answers · asked by jane m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
End your relationship with your fiancee. He's cheated and will always cheat on you.
Go and talk to Malik. Get to know him.
Good luck
2006-12-20 19:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by dlt_04240 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I think I'd end the relationship and try something new with Malik. I mean, he's cheated on you 9 times! Who knows how many more times he will [even after you get married]! 6 years is a long time... but if he was serious about your relationship, he should be more committed. Just think about it... are you happy with him? Honestly?
2006-12-20 19:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favour.....Stick your hand in a door and shame the door shut. if you can forgive your self 9 time in say 6 hours, sure then give him another chance otherwise get the hell out of that relationship. Go give that other guy a chance and show that dumb a** fiancee of yours just what a good time girl you can be!
2006-12-20 19:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just leave you fiancee alone. He's cheated on you 9 times , just leave. It would not be fair to the other guy if you want to spend time with him, but you know you're going back to your fiancee. Don't play with this guy's feeling like that, put yourself in his position.
2006-12-20 19:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I gotta say that if someone cheats, it's over, end of story. It will be a painful ending, but it must end, because the trust is forever polluted. It is rare though to somehow, clean that water for a new swim with the same person. But in your case, cheated 9 times, heh, no question it's over.
2006-12-20 19:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the fiancee loved you, he would stay true to you...this is a pattern for your fiancee...dump him and find a healthy normal man...Malik may be a good start. You deserve to be loved and don't settle for less.
2006-12-20 19:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump your boyfriend, then go out with Malik. If you get involve with Malik before dumping yr bf, then youre not better than your bf....sorry but I had to be blunt.....gd luck!
2006-12-20 19:58:15 · answer #7 · answered by Beverly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you continue to forgive a cheater? Worse, why are you considering marrying him?
Stop being a doormat and start living your life.
2006-12-20 19:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop the engagement... it seems that you're not 100% sure of settling down... i think you need to enjoy your life .... do the things you never do, so when time comes and you're ready, you will never look back and sorry that you did not grab the chances of doing what you really like to do.
2006-12-20 19:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by milkee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd drop that guy like that. A guy who cheats over and over is a piece of ****. Don't marry that asshole! You deserve better girl!!! Don't fall victim to the man who tries to walk all over you. Kick him to the curb hunny!
2006-12-20 19:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by twisted_cherry85 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋