I'm 17 yrs old and my g/f is 16. We've been together for about a year now and have started to get serious in our relationship. I had thouhgt about gettin her a promise ring, but i don't know if it is the right time or right thing to do. I want her to know how much i really do care about her. I already have a ring, but do i need to present it to her as a promise ring or a gift for Christmas?
2006-12-20 19:27:26 · 10 answers · asked by confused07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok... i understand what a promise ring is otherwise i wouldn't have bought the ring with intentions of a promise ring. I do intend to marry this girl someday, just not in the near future...just to clear some things up
2006-12-20 19:37:05 · update #1
Well you guys are super young so i say just as a gift for christmas.
2006-12-20 19:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by iwuvblue0407 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say just as a gift for Christmas. Since you have only been together 1 year and are still in high school (Im assuming), it would be presumptuous to make such a large promise. Also, I may be superstitious, but every girl I have seen with a promise ring has never stayed with the guy that gave it to them for long, due to relationship problems, infidelity, or realizing they weren't right for each other. I just think it jinxes the relationship if you two haven't gone through a lot and been together for a long time. Just think about what the promise would mean to you and what it would mean to her. If it would be something very sacred to you and she would feel the same way, then maybe one day a promise ring may be a question, just see how your relationship progresses after a few years. None the less, Im sure she would still find the Christmas present extra special coming from someone she loves, promise ring or not.
--In response to your addition-- I was just saying, things can happen that separate people. If you make such a big promise early on, the chances of it not working out are higher, so if you break up down the road and find someone else, a promise ring wont have as much meaning to them, because you had already promised someone else before. I would wait to see if you two can make it through the first years of college, if so, then proceed with the promising.
2006-12-20 19:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by Amy V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will still be special if you just give it to her as a Christmas present. As far as a promise ring goes, you may be jumping the gun just a little, and, although you love her, it's best not to make such a big promise when you both have so much of your lives ahead of you and any number of things could come between you. For now you should just give her, the ring and make sure she knows exactly how much she means to you. Good luck!
2006-12-20 19:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by poggioli82 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gift for Christmas would be most appropriate... you shouldn't give a girl younger than 17 a promise ring (its the precursor to an engagement ring...).
Giving her a promise ring might intimidate or threaten her... but simply giving her a ring - that clearly says you care, or love, her... but without the pressure of the promise ring...
You sound like a great person - and very wise for your age - impressive question... give her the ring for christmas, I did the same when I was your age (considered the promise ring...) and it worked out very well.
When she and I talked, she was really freaked that I might have been promising or offering an engagement ring...
Good luck - and happy holidays.
-dh
2006-12-20 19:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say as a gift for christmas. You are way too young to start thinking about marriage. Giving her a promise ring might freak her out and instead of showing her how much you care about your relationship, you might end up losing her.
2006-12-20 19:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by amy r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say on Christmas day yo ugive it to her and tel her its a promise ring. Your intent to marry her someday and so on. As long as you know what a promise ring is lol. On Christmas day just take her aside and give her the box or hold the ring out and say somethign like "Weve been going out for a year. I really wanted to find something special for you for Christmas. You made an impact on my life and I want to show you how much our love means to me. I got you a promise ring and I hope that you will wear it." Ahhh young love it is so adorable! Yo uare a little young but that is why it is a promise ring. It is meant for younger people...well atleast to me it is lol. Good luck and I hope everything goes well :) Happy Holidays!
2006-12-20 19:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is thoroughly as much as you. I've noticeable such a lot promise earrings within the $one hundred-$a million,000 variety. What sort does your female friend like? Most ladies like white gold, platinum, steady gold or silver. Yes, you'll supply it to her on her birthday. That could be candy. I could say you do not ask her father till you get to the engagement ring level. Best of good fortune to you!
2016-09-03 16:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sweet, why don't you give it to her as a gift for Christmas, then when she ask why you got it, you can tell her it is a promise ring :)
Good Luck and Happy Holidays:)
2006-12-20 19:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by Tessa L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Promise rings are very stupid, either gather up the balls to get engaged or don't. Don't do anything until you're at least 21. you have no rush.
2006-12-20 19:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you want to give her a promise ring, do it, she'll appreciate it. best luck.
2006-12-20 19:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by FairGround 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋