makes good money and can actually support "the family" and you could be a stay at home mom but the guy you were with constantly got on your nerves and was a narcissist to the max...or would rather raise your child alone, collect child support and be free of a man?
2006-12-20 19:12:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
not a
not b
how about C
You get a good paying job
split custody 50/50
and do what's right for the child
2006-12-20 19:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by hogie0101 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think once single, it's better to raise your child alone. Anyone you marry won't have the same attachment to your child as you do. There maybe a few exceptions, but most of the time, your better off raising your children until they are grown. 18+
I hope your child(ren) still has their dad involved. Children do need moms and dads both, I am just not a big believer that step parents can live up to that role.
Good Luck
2006-12-21 04:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a single parent, I definitely would go for that over being with someone who isn't wonderful for you and your child. I was totally alone with minimum court-ordered support for three years after my divorce. Now I'm happily involved with a man who cares about me and my daughter. There are good men out there. It just takes a long time to find them. If you're with a guy who can support your being a stay-at-home mom, then he should have no problem providing financial support if you choose to do what is best for your child.
I wish you the very best, for yourself and your child.
2006-12-21 03:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well neither of them really sounds good, but if I had to choose I would choose to raise the child alone. I'm sure being a single parent is not an easy task either, but I would prefer that then being with a guy who constantly annoyed me. That would make things even more difficult on me, and the child aswell.
2006-12-21 03:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Doll. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not hard to tell by your question that you do not want to marry this guy, so don't. Nothing ever stays the same. You might not have to raise your child alone. You might end up meeting someone you actually care about and will also care about your child. It doesn't always have to be doom and gloom. But nothing good ever comes out of marrying someone you do not love.
2006-12-21 03:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home mom, and it feels like I'm alone all the time. so I always wonder if I should just be free of a man. Find someone who makes good money honestly.
2006-12-21 03:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by tiffany j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's hard question.. that baby is half his!!!! than he might just have 50-50 custody.. surprisly its hard to get full custody of a child if the father is present and wants the baby......... now could you really go without your child for a few days every week??? or go 2 weeks on and 2 weeks off??? its hard.... it wouldn't be just as simple as taking your baby and being a single parent collecting child support. that becomes a long battle really re-think t before you start something.... dont get me Wrong I'm a strong believer that 2 people dont have to be together to raise a child... I'm just saying taking the kid away and having this perfect life isn't going to be as easy as it sounds....
2006-12-21 03:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
happiness can't be bought, I would opt for being on my own.
The best thing you can teach children is how to look after your own emotional well being, in my opinion. If you can look after yourself this way, then decisions aren't quite so hard to make, and life seems better. If you can show your children this through example, what better lesson.
If you stay with this guy for the money, then what are you teaching your children? If you leave what would the children learn? Ultimately, I think this is what you need to ask yourself, and then the answer will be clear. Good luck with whatever you decide, I am sure it will be right for you.
2006-12-21 03:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question! Why not just spend a LOT less time together by getting a job whether you need it or not. Either let him help take care of the child, get a job at a place the child can go...(Day Care worker) or put the child in day care a few hours a day.
I'm start spending less and less time at home...maybe he'll figure it out especially if you've told him that his Ego is out of hand...
I suggest start preparing yourself for the working world and spend less time around him...
2006-12-21 03:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Out of those two options, I'd rather be a single parent. I don't feel I would be in love with a guy like that, and therefore the household wouldn't be very loving, which I feel is a very important aspect of raising a child.
2006-12-21 03:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by antheia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would rather raise the child myself, have a career and collect the child support.
2006-12-21 03:18:28 · answer #11 · answered by dixiechick5905 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋