I can't stop thinking about him!!?

Question

For the past two years I've been to church and have had a crush on this alterboy. It's been a year now that we have been exchanging our looks in church, and while he was at the alter! God forgive me but I try not to look at him. I'm older than him I think...he looks like he is 20. Just guessing there.... but I feel that there is an attraction between us.........None of us ever made the move, how could we? We are in church? By the time mass is over, it's time for me to go home.....what should I do? It's like a never ending game we're playing....I look at you and you look at me.....but nobody wants to make the move..... and I don't know how to either!!

Answer 1

Well if you think he's worth it, talk to him. If he's too shy to make a move, maybe he's not for you, cuz everyone knows men usually supposed to make the first move. Maybe, it's like what people have been recommending me to read, "He's just not that into you". Otherwise, move on.... Only if you want to though. If he's 20, and he's still playing mind games or playing hard to get, you can bet he'd play mind games with you when you're in a relatinship with him! He needs to grow up first!

Edit: plus, how could you be able to concentrate on what the priest is saying when you're too busy thinking about him? Rach30 is right. Concentrate on the Homilee?

Thumbs up for your question though. I had the same problem but it was like in junior high and high school

Answer 2

You do not say how old you are. If you are under 18, you are a minor and all kinds of problems can arise if you pursue further with this young man of 20. If so, consider it now as a severe crush and wait until you are over 18.
If you are over 18, what is the matter with you? You're a girl... no a woman. Girls have this enate talent of flirtatious expressions and psychic sensitivity to how the young man is receiving them. Have you heard of church socials? At every opportunity, let the man know your crush "symptoms". If you don't get any feedback he is either too shy or you are not his type. Don't let this stop your efforts to find out which. Don't be pushy and too forward in case he's shy. Always be available and approach him subtlely. One thing that gives shy guys confidence is that you are shy also so he doesn't feel intimidated. I have found that when it gets to a certain point and he feels you're not his type, he will tell you no matter how shy he is. That's when you give yourself a good cry and move on. That's life and I've seen it many times when I was young.

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Answer 3

Pop a note for him into the offering bag, maked "the alterboy with X hair and X eyes.... with your number and name.

Answer 4

HOW MUCH OLDER ARE WE TALKING? IF IT'S MORE THAN 4 YEARS, MOVE ON. LESS THAN 4? YOU BOTH MAY JUST BE CAUGHT UP IN THE GAME OF LOOK @ ME LOOK @ U!!!!
IF YOU 2 ACTUALLY TALKED AND HOOKED UP, YOU'D PROBABLY BE DISAPPOINTED BECAUSE YOU'VE BUILT IT UP SO MUCH IN YOUR MIND, THAT HE COULDN'T POSSIBLY BE AS GREAT AS YOU'D HOPED!!! don't date altar boys!!!

Answer 5

Already answered this for you only it had a different heading ??? What do you want people to tell you ??

Answer 6

Put your phone number in the collection plate!

Answer 7

Did it ever dawn on you he has a girlfriend and that is why he won't do anything.about the two of you.;

Answer 8

one of you will have to do something cos it aint going to happen on its own. invite him for coffee, then ply him with hard liquor

Answer 9

don't worry. let the time to decide..if u r lucky..u'll surely get the chance..ho ho..let's pray !!

Answer 10

hahaha i wish i was him, i would have my way with you in church