2006-12-20 18:56:16 · 19 answers · asked by wendy k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Frankly, it's whatever you can afford to give and how you know the couple. (Close family is usually expected to give a bit more, less-than-best friends aren't expected to give a ton.) Any amount is appreciated, and you should not feel bad about whatever you decide. :-)
2006-12-21 20:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you must concider the following. Although ppl are not invited just so they can give money, they are invited because the couple wants to share their (Hopefully beautiful day) with them.
That being said, you have to consider what the couple has spent on (if it was their money they used) the food, up to $35/40 a plate. Then there is the booze that everyone consumes. Usually at a wedding it is open bar. If you tally up the usual cost of a bar tab at a wedding, the average person would NEVER go out the the bar and tally the same bill. I like to put all this into play when considering an amount. I myself would give no less then $100 a person. Food, booze and a small gift to them
2006-12-21 04:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by gord's360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The standard rule is enough to cover the cost of your plate (food, drink, and cake) or a nice dinner out for the couple, whichever is the greater amount. Usually this is $50-100, but there are some couples who have very fancy receptions with gourmet meals that run them $250 (or more) per person. Check the invitation for meal information to get an idea about what they spent per plate. If the information wasn't given, ask one of their attendants or one of the parents.
More importantly, you should give what you can afford. You shouldn't have to go into debt, or put off a bill, just to give a gift. If all you can afford is $25, then that's what you give. If you can afford more, then be generous. This is a (hopefully) once in a lifetime occasion for them, you want to show your appreciation of being included, and show respect for the event.
2006-12-21 09:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the place they are having the wedding, the rule of thumb is try to cover your plate and give a little extra. If they are having a moderately formal wedding $50 - $75 should do it. If they are having a very formal, or black tie affair and serving up the Filet and Lobster, then I would say $100 - $150 is in order.
2006-12-21 09:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by fortillfriday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your suppose to cover the meal.... I'll tell you what I do because I am tired of over paying for people when they have cash bar or don't offer drinks..... Put the card and check in your purse and check out the place and what they are serving before you give the card. Then after you feel if $50 or $100 is good, then go to the bathroom and quickly fill out the $$ of the check (fill out the rest before hand) I started doing this after I gave $200 and then later found out their was NO dinner or DRINKS. It was just cake and punch- I should have gave them $20!!!
2006-12-21 09:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got married, most of my cash gifts were $100 to $150.
2006-12-21 13:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by baadfishii_35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how well you know the bride or groom? If you are just an aquaintance or friend of the family, $25-$50 should suffice. If you are a good friend of the bride or groom, you should go and check out their registry and buy them a gift. If that is not an option, put a benjamin in agreat card.
2006-12-21 03:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rach 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Etiquette usually calls for $50
2006-12-22 11:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by angihorn2006 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How close are you to the person. If your not so close give $50, if your close to the couple give $100.
2006-12-21 13:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man thats like asking how much should you put in the offerring basket?
Are you well off? if yes then bless these people, what a great thing to do. Giving is far better than recieving.
If you not well off, give what you can- man even if it's $10 dollars it will be appreciated as i'm sure they Know where you come from!
But as i say, giving is great
2006-12-21 03:05:52 · answer #10 · answered by greg h 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋