What should I do?

Question

For the past two years I've been to church and have had a crush on this alterboy. It's been a year now that we have been exchanging our looks in church, and while he was at the alter! God forgive me but I try not to look at him. I'm older than him I think...he looks like he is 20. Just guessing there.... but I feel that there is an attraction between us.........None of us ever made the move, how could we? We are in church? By the time mass is over, it's time for me to go home.....what should I do? It's like a never ending game we're playing....I look at you and you look at me.....but nobody wants to make the move.....

Answer 1

Just make the move!

Talk to him!

Ask him for his number or email and start talking! :o)

Answer 2

Is there a church social function you could invite him to attend with you? What about a mutual friend who could introduce the two of you? If not, just introduce yourself. There is nothing wrong with speaking to someone or making polite conversation after church. That's how we get to know one another.

If you feel uncomfortable doing this, do you have a brother or male friend or relative who is interested in becomming an alterboy. If so, you could meet him that way. Just approach him and say something like, "Hi. My name is ..... My brother/friend/cousin/whatever is thinking about becomming an alterboy, and I was wondering if you would mind answering some questions he has?"

I think being straightforward is the best approach though. He may be shy himself and praying that you'll make the first move. What've you got to lose?

Good luck!

Answer 3

Um Beverly you have attended this church for over two years and had a crush on this one guy and still don't know who he is or anything about him like age and so forth?? Doesn't the congregation ever gather and visit after the service?? How do people in the church get to know one another?? And if he is an alter boy someone has to know something about him--Ask the Mon senior--or a nun --you have to know someone in the church that knows something about him--Why not just wait one Sunday and say hi--That you are sorry you always have to leave so fast each Sunday but you wanted to stay and say hello..

Answer 4

Just come up to him when you get the courage and talk. Casual talk is fine. To make it become more just talk everytime you go there until you guys exchange numbers or decide to hang out and just see what happens. It's not a sin to find someone at church. And to look at someone. I duno why you would feel bad for doin so

Answer 5

Well..if you don't want to make a move..that puts you in a bind..doesn't it?...my suggestion would have been try to strike a converstion after the cermony..may be a compliment as to how much you like the service there or something religion related...or if you don't want to talk to him at all..may be you should try to forget about him and move on??..if that is difficult..try another church:)

Answer 6

well i know most girls find it hard to express their feelins first to a guy cos they are always afraid the guy will make the relationship all abt himself.

my advice for u will be since hes a alter boy. let him make the move so that u will really know he loves u back or likes u back enough to ask u out forgetin all abt the alter or wat the church will say.

Answer 7

Don't rush things just let it happen.
One of you will make your move over the next 10 years or so.

Answer 8

I think you are not serious just only for fun. If you want you can talk to him and have fellowship with him. It is good for both.

Answer 9

yeah. see how everyone reacts

Answer 10

walk up and tear off his robe and suck his ding ding!