This christmas I just want to spend it with my husband and my son. Only the three of us. We use to invite people for this day bu this you i do not want to do so. my son is nine months old.
2006-12-20 18:46:55 · 35 answers · asked by Nina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No thats not at all selfish, it makes perfect sense that you want to spend your sons first Christmas as a family together.
\arrange to visit family on Boxing day.
You only ever get one first Christmas. make it special for the three of you..
merry Xmas
2006-12-20 18:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being selfish...especially to want to spend it with your 9 month old son...His first Christmas should be special...but on the other hand, he is only 9 months...so, he is still getting used to you...no need for a lot of overstimulation...Tell your family/friends maybe next year...but this year, it's about your immediate family of your husband and young son...
2006-12-22 05:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by Terry C. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we get older what we want changes and to do what you want isn't selfish. Sometimes it's difficult for other people to understand because it's what they expect but if you do what other people expect rather than what you want then you won't enjoy your Christmas. I've decided to go to the other side of the world to spend Christmas with my boyfriend which has caused a few problems with my family but once i got over the guilt this is the most excited I've been about Christmas since i was a child and i will enjoy Christmas rather than being resentful because i did what other people wanted.
2006-12-20 19:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by roisindu2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry people will understand, nobody is that stupid not to realize it is your first xmas with your baby.
But if you feel bad just give a new years eve dinner, invite the poeple you would have invited for christmas (odds are most of them have plans) and exchange the presents you guys have for each other. The tree is still up and it can be a fun holiday after the holiday party with the bonus of ringing in the new year without having to go to some lame bar or party.
2006-12-20 18:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sibbyym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with the three of you wanted to be together for Christmas. You can always visit of go and visit the rest of the family members on Boxing day or on one of the days afterwards. Don't feel bad because you are not being selfish
2006-12-21 04:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends! Do you have a mother or father who is sitting on her own with no one else at christmas? If so, I think you are being selfish. If not, enjoy!
The point about Christmas is family as most of us aren't religious. It's all very well saying "We want to be on our own" but you can do that every day. I know I'm going against the mill here, but I think you need to get your priorities right. And yes, if your mother and father go to your brother for Christmas, why not? But put yourself in their shoes and see how you'd feel if you were an aged relative?
2006-12-20 19:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all selfish take the time to relax and enjoy, we had people round last year and it was just hassle and I missed my little girl opening some of her presents.
The year before she was nine months old at Christmas too and we spent the day without anybody else, we went to them to deliver presents and then home by ourselves.
It was lovely, all we had for Christmas lunch was a frozen micro meal so barley any washing up! It made Christmas day a true holiday for ALL of us!
2006-12-20 19:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not being selfish at all. I think you should go for it after all it is the first Christmas with your son and if your family is there (if there anything like mine) you will never get to hold him! It would be more special just the 3 of you.
2006-12-20 18:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That isn't selfish at all. I think it's always good to have quality time with yout family in some instances. In this case, i'm assuming it's your son's first Christmas, so i don't think it is selfish of you at all to want just a quiet time with your husband and your son. It's quite alright, it would be selfish of others to feel hurt or upset if you don't invite them over...
2006-12-20 18:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No that's not selfish at all, in fact I envy you so much!!! My other half is a chef and his family expect him to be there in the kitchen from morning til night cooking an endless stream of breakfast, snacks, Christmas lunch and supper, he barely has time to open his presents. It drives me insane that we have to go there for the "family Christmas" every year, I mean I really resent that fact that his whole day is taken up slaving in the kitchen (I do help out, but he is the master in the kitchen) and then I am left loading the dishes into the dishwashers, it's more of an ordeal than a holiday, I dread it. Next year I am booking a week in Amsterdam, and telling them all well in advance so they don't start planning the menu for lunch next year!!
2006-12-20 18:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋