My daughter is only 7 and has a problem lying.It's always about stupid things too that she probably wouldn't of got in trouble for anyway.I've tried grounding her from tv,toys,everything.I've tried spanking her,putting her in the corner for as much as 2 hours.None of these things phase her because she is so stubborn.She is usually one of the best behaved kids I know,not saying that only because she's my daughter but she's kind,helps out a lot,other than lying,doesn't really do anything bad.Any suggestions?
2006-12-20 18:44:24 · 9 answers · asked by J♥R♥R 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Oh,I do give her warnings by the way,I'll tell her,tell me the truth or you will be grounded.And if she tells the truth and even if it was bad I won't punish her.And she's not afraid of me,I don't "hit" her,I spank her butt.I don't believe in child abuse.
2006-12-20 18:52:37 · update #1
What in the heck is all this "get counseling" advice for? She's 7 years old! All kids lie. It's normal for kids to try to avoid trouble in this way.
Don't let the lying get you all worked up (it seems you get very upset and emotional when she lies) and do have a set punishment for lying. Oh yea, and asking "why are you lying??!!!!" never helps either. You know why she's lying....she thinks she'll get in trouble. Maybe YOU think that it's silly but a 7 year old doesn't exactly have the ability to reason like an adult. :)
2006-12-21 03:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by Dez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she's doing it for the extra attention it gets her.
so you could do 1 or both of the following:
1. turn the tables on her, tell her a lie that when it becomes obvious to her that you lied to her, it will show her exactly how it feels to be lied to. like "I did your homework for you", when you really didn't. and when she gets to school and it's not done, she'll have the consequences for the lie.
2. the next time she lies, ignore her. totally. just turn around and leave the room and ignore her. Let her be the one to come to you to discuss it .
and also, I would talk to a counselor, or even a family court judge, and ask what can be done to stop this before it becomes a serious issue which could lead to trouble with the law later in life.
2006-12-21 00:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to learn about consequences. There are good consequences and there are bad consequences. One thing I've learned, consequences don't have to come right away. You can keep a consequence book. When your child does something wrong, you write it down and date it. The next time something exciting comes along that they really want to do, the two of you check the book of consequences to see if there is anything that needs to be paid back. If there is, you can show them and remind of them of what they did wrong and then refuse whatever it is that they asking for. Then you mark it paid back. You have to take away something that really matters to them to make an impression. I find it promotes good behavior. It's very important to keep the book up and make sure to follow through on the consequences. Good behavior should be rewarded to. I imagine if your daughter is losing the things she really wants she will straighten out so she doesn't have to deal with that book of consequences. Again, it's important to follow through though and take away whatever it is she's asking for, Maybe it's to spend a night with a friend. Well, if there's something in the book, then it has to be paid back, so the answer is no. It really does work well. Good luck.
2006-12-20 18:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well I say maybe she lies to protect herself. Maybe you are expecting too much from her and she feels if she sint perfect she will be in trouble. Sounds like shes getting into lots of it if you have to bring it to yahoo. Try asking her why she lied afterwartds and if its no biggy then tell her it is ok and jnext time to just come to you about it. Dont make her think that if she tells you something she is going to be punished. Then you are gonna end up with the 16 year old pregnant girl who is pregnant becuase she was too affraid to ask for birth control. AND spanking is not illegal beating is so dont listen to dumb people.
2006-12-20 18:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Spanking is not abuse.It can be a very effective form of discipline. However not for all children, Maybe this is just a faze. Have you told her the story of the boy who cried woof? Try explaining her that if she continues to lie,then people may quit beliving her and one day, it will be something serious and no one will listen.
2006-12-20 22:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i had the same problem with a neiborhood kid till for about a week i told him some of the biggest lies i could think of he can up to me and asked me why i lied to him all the time that he can't belive me . i then told him that is my point about him and we made a agreement the from then on we would never lie to each other . he will start to still but when he gets the look he stops
2006-12-20 19:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by k dog 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hmmm counsling.
2006-12-20 23:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lilmisssassy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to her why keep lyieng.give more attention ,be open as a friend,have fun together
2006-12-20 18:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by minjong k 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should consult a child psychologist
2006-12-20 18:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋