there is a man in nigeria who is 30 years old I am 48 he says he is madly in love with me. we have been talking for almost 8 months now. He talked about coming to see me and he attempted to twice, but could not make it. Am I being a fool. He has not asked me for anything we just chat and talk about our feelings, I hear Nigeria is a country full of scammers but they all cant be that way. what would you do in my situation.I have fallen in love with him also and I want to believe him and trust him and I am nieve sometimes I choose to see the good in people, but I hear so many bad things about Nigeria. Is he into illegal things that I dont know about. He said he works at some company that is there doing a job for USA and he is from Florida. Please someone give me some advice. He really sounds sincere but I am now questioning myself. whenever I dont hear from him for a day or two I start thinking things like he is not sincere. is that my insecurity or he may have more womam online chatting!
2006-12-20 18:36:44 · 13 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HI, You should listen to your instincts. I would not get involved with Anyone from Nigeria today. Scamming is rampid in that country at the present time. I would not want to take even the remotest chance that I could get hurt. It is so much better to be safe than sorry. There are so many ways to meet men right here in the United States. The bottom line is there is no definite proof that anyone you talk to on-line is truthful or honest. The fact that your friend from Nigeria keeps saying he is coming and then backing out should be a big enough red flag. Your intuition is your best protector, Listen to it. Good Luck!
2006-12-20 18:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by sunshinesue_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting the question of "is he a scammer?" aside for a moment. It's great to have friends. I don't think a person can have too many. So, you have a friend in Nigeria, that you chat with....way cool. Now having a lover living thousands of miles away, now that brings up some issues. It is difficult to have dinner with him, or say a walk in the evening. Definitely a problem to snuggle. So you must ask yourself, "how will this relationship benefit either one of us on a romantic level"? Do your heart a huge favor and be friends with him. Chat with him. Share good (online) times with him. But, as a lover? How? When? and WHY would you put your heart thru that? Count yourself lucky to have him as a friend. If and WHEN he ever comes to the states, if you are important to him, he will seek you out. Don't run across the country to meet him.
Good Luck
ps: don't loan him any money.
2006-12-20 18:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by mark h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very possible to do. Give your self a very tight budget put it in a savings account but 1 or 2 year CDs when you get a larger sum would be best. Eat all your meals on base when possible and try and not party as much and its doable. Also make sure your not paying state taxes on your money. I learned that trick the hard way. Some states still make you pay taxes even if your not living there and in the army. If your lucky your state isn't like that but if it is switch your home of residence to a state that doesn't charge you. Like florida or Tennessee. That could save you hundreds of dollars a month. Stay away from the ladies if you can while in the military they will drain your bank account fast. That was one of my down falls. As to the guy about no dental when did that change because i had free dental all 4 years i was in the army. I went several times got my wisdom teeth removed some fillings and many cleanings and I never did anything but check in and walk out. Never had to pay anything. All the health-care i received in the military was free. Even had knee surgery for free.
2016-05-23 04:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE be careful - I understand that you are in love but try to think clearly about the situation. Why didn't he come to visit you? What's the name of the company he works for? He should be willing to give you that. Ask him about where he is from in Florida- get details! You have very vague information about him and I would be suspicious. It's difficult to know if he's chatting just with you or others-you sound like a very kind sweet person and maybe you are too trusting.
On the other hand - you mentioned he hasn't asked you for anything - so there isn't alot of risk - (financial or material) but your heart is at terrible risk and you need to take a moment and be honest with yourself. Why did you fall in love with him? Are you lonely and looking for someone and he says all the right things? Remember actions speak louder than words! If it's real there has to be some face to face contact. If he keeps making excuses there all kinds of alarms should be ringing!!!
You and I are the same age- I am married to a wonderful man that I men on line - we have been married for 7 years. I moved to Europe once we got married and I'm the happiest I have ever been in my life. BUT, we wrote for about 6 months first and then he came to visit me in Can. He met my family and friends. I came to visit him and did the same. We went back and forth for about two years, then got married.
Hon, find a man closer to your own age who will be present in your life, emotionally, and physically. Dreams do come true-I'm proof of that!
I wish you the Peace of the Holiday Season - Merry Christmas and God Bless!
2006-12-20 18:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just like to know, How in the hell could anyone fall in love with someone over the Internet ? I mean come on,you have never even met the guy ! Are you really 48 years old, or is that just as high as you can count ?
2006-12-20 18:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by g_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe every thing you hear about Nigerians, we are not all that bad. As for this guy, i don't think you are in love. You have only been chatting with him and that doesn't mean you know everything about him. If he starts asking you to send him money or help him come to see you in America, then he is a fraud. Get to meet real people (offline)
2006-12-20 18:47:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a severe problem with love addiction.
Simply put - you can not possibly be in love with someone that you have never met in person. Sorry if I sound old fashioned.
If you go to his country to met him I suspect we will be reading about you in the newspapers really soon.
You need a psychologist right now.
Good luck
2006-12-20 18:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Alan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are either already being scammed or are being set up to be scammed. Has he asked for money yet? Totally innocently - you know, to come visit or for wrongful imprisonment or something like that. Dr. Phil did a show on this topic not long ago - visit his website. It's hard to be lonely and it makes you easy prey.
2006-12-20 18:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by jane7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is really 63, and has 4 wives already
time to get a life
by the way - we have dry land in the Everglades for Sale after
you have purchased the Brooklyn Bridge with your Yahoo! lottery winnings.
2006-12-20 18:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by tomkat1528 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be careful he cud be playing yu for a green card or for residence.
but if he is the guy yu want to be then the age didd shud not bother yu that much.
2006-12-20 18:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋