A guy whom I dated briefly years ago found me online on match personal ad 2 months ago.
We lived long distance and I happen to be moving home.
He knew that I wouldnt be moving home until around New Year's.
He acted all excited & happy for a while.
Problem is is that he keeps updating his ad on match (I only know because he fits my search criteria when I look for matches) (adding pics of his possessions to seem more attractive I guess) and recently asked me if Id be interested in being 'friends with benefits' when I move home. (wow insulting no one has ever brought up that with me)
I guess I should give up on him and see that he just considers me booty call and not a potential girlfriend.
Im depressed because at first he acted like he wanted to date when I moved home.
Also depressed because there are hardly any single men 29-35 where Im moving back to......
Should I bother contacting him when I move home next week ? He keeps saying he cant wait to see me, but I think its bull.
2006-12-20 18:05:39 · 6 answers · asked by Leea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please do not contact him yourself. if he is so excited to see u he will do it himself. and u should, no u MUST tell him that u don't know when u will be able to meet him, cos u re terribly terribly busy when he contacts u first. even if u need to sit alone and stare atr walls please tell him u re busy and can't meet him. make him wait for u, think of u, make him contact u several times. and please do not show him u re anyway interested in him. as soon as he gets it he will make u sorry. he is that type of useless loser man. so at least give him his own medicine. good luck
2006-12-20 18:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd keep my distance and observe his behavior. Nothing saying you can't meet with him. Nothing saying you have to turn it into something more. I absolutely would not consider being merely a booty call. Tell him to get that out of his system and then contact you when he's ready for a real relationship. Maybe you'll be available, maybe not.
2006-12-21 02:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what he wants. Don't let desperation get the better of you. I wouldn't say it's a good idea to meet with him, because this sort of person often knows how to play on your fears and loneliness in order to get into your pants.
2006-12-21 02:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its pretty clear where he is coming from. you can go into meeting up with him knowing this though. you can take it as slow as you want and see how he reacts. go in without having any expectations and itll be hard to be let down.
2006-12-21 02:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by bob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play the game he is playing kinda hard to get but if he is the type to be like that
forget him!
2006-12-21 02:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by that_model_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eh forget any hope of being serious with him
call him but just to have fun, to see where it will lead
just dont get your hopes up.
2006-12-21 02:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by ampedrockstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋