How should I prevent my child-like emotional instabilities at the age of 18?

Question

I had temper tantrums when I was young. This was then aggravated by several factors - family problems, stresses in school, continued teasings from certain people, detachments to our community, etc. Whenever I have emotional stress, I get moody, vindictive and destructive. I also get impatient on some things or people I don't like the most. I discovered my health problems related to this: hypertension, profuse sweating, nausea, etc. I also discovered that I have severe cases of inferiority complex. I keep on having this until my present age of 18. How should I prevent this?

Answer 1

You dont NEED prescription drugs to get over your issues. Try joining a boxing gym, a sports team, or an excellent martial arts dojo. Martial arts can help you with most of the problems you just listed and I can explain exactly why:

Stress' in school: You can relieve alot of your stress in the dojo on the punching bags. You will also eventually learn how to not entertain stressful ideas, if you are persistent.

Teasings: A bully will not continue to pick on you if he has an excellent reason not to. The development of your martial arts technique will give a bully a reason to stop picking on you.

Community issues: A good school will teach you how to interact with others on a number of different levels, which will make you feel more connected to your community.

Emotions and destructiveness: You can learn how to bring forward these upsetting emotions that give you extremely intense feelings that make you want to destroy something. Bring forward these emotions in the dojo, and learn how to honestly express yourself completely and destructively on a punching bag or a sparring partner. Your negative emotions will eventually deplete.

Feeling real tensed up all the time is obviously rooted in the fact that you are uncomfortable with yourself or your environment(or those who are in your environment). You need to learn how to relax your mind and the body because when your muscles are contracted like this, you are constantly wasting energy. You may also have trapped, very instense energy that you need to get rid of.

Profuse sweating is probably linked with nervousness.

Ultimately what you need to start doing more often is exercising daily. Start tommorrow.

Answer 2

Stop being a hypochondriac and learn to laugh at your problems.

In two-thousand years, it won't matter if the community was supportive or not or the people teased you or not.

What would matter would be if you had a good time being alive. Are you happy throwing tantrums? If not, just give it up.

Every time you feel like telling someone off or screaming, just say instead "Ahhh! It's just not worth the effort. Nothing's gonna change anyway."

Yep. Life is unfair. But you don't have to notice it all that much, do you now? If people don't care about your feelings, you shouldn't waste time trying to get them to notice that you are hurt either. It won't work. Give it up. Instead, do something that makes you happy. You only got this life -- live it in a healthy, happy way. I added the "healthy" bit because I don't want you to accidentally think of "addictions" and stuff. BTW a life well lived is an addiction by itself and the best one too. ;)

Answer 3

You are going to have to learn to like yourself and quit worrying about what others think about you or your decisions. Everything that happened in your past cannot be changed so forget about the past and try not to let yourself dwell on bad things that happened to you. You become short tempered with people especially those you don't like because you don't want them to get the upper hand, when actually they get it every time you become angry. Smile at them instead and they will wonder if they are not the ones who are losing. It's not about being right always, make mistakes, fall down get back up and learn what made you fall in the first place. You need to go around people and talk to them, it seems to me you may not have learned to deal with people at a young age so now you have anxiety attacks from this situation. The only recourse you have is to quit being afraid and give it your all. You only live once and you are wasting time being afraid of the things that have no solidity to them. Those fears can be controlled, break each situation down as it comes and don't try to plan or preconceive every thing that is going to happen or be said.

Answer 4

you have a chemical imbalance. The brain is designed to control the release of chemicals to keep us sane. There are many drugs that aid in the release of chemicals that your brain is not releasing. I have seen countless individuals move from being depressed losers into happy, successful people. I highly suggest seeing a shrink. It's a hard thing to do at first but once you start, you will be a different person. A much happier, less aggressive and less emotional person. Good luck.

Answer 5

You might need antidepressents. However, the best idea is to start going to a therapist. They can help you find constructive ways to vent your anger. Sometimes it just helps having someone to talk to like that. If you cannot do that, then start keeping a journal. In a journal you can say and do anything you want. Write about what you would like to do...what you would like to say...everything! It is a great way to vent and then regain composure without actually hurting anyone. If you use a computer, then you can even delete it and then there is no record of you having your tantrum. Also, we got my son a punching bag for him to vent his frustrations on. It has worked wonders. When he gets fed up, he just runs to his rooms, goes a few rounds and then he is fine.