So I love my bf but he ALWAYS has girls all over them. ( he doesnt lead them on..dont worry) and he gets upset that i get jealous. so how can i not be so jealous all the time? I mean i trust him and everything i just hate freakin girls all up on his nuts all the time! and i DONT want to push him away..and i know he loves me. i KNOW he does, and i know im the only girl he wants to be wiht. but i cant help it. AHHH
I need help.
Please..
2006-12-20 17:39:59 · 12 answers · asked by FairChild 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depending on what these girls are doing there are different answers.
If the other girls are hitting on him he should be more considerate of your feelings, and should be strong enough within himself to tell other women that they are acting disrespectful to the both of you.
If they are merely talking to him (like any other friend would) then the problem lies with in you.
There is no reason to worry if you're staying confident, assertive, and self controlled right? So just keep reminding yourself why he chooses you over all of the rest!
2006-12-20 17:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he shouldn't be letting girls hang all over him. If he needs that much attention from other women, he isn't ready to commit to you. How do you think he'd like a bunch of guys hanging all over you? Why don't you try it and see what his reaction is? I'm guessing he wouldn't appreciate being on the other end of this. As far as you being afraid of pushing him away...if he dumps you because you set some reasonable standards for what you want in a relationship, kiss him goodbye and find a guy who respects you.
2016-05-23 03:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first thing... don't compare yourself to other women.. there will always be someone worse or someone better! That is a fact of Life!
Be completely satisfied with yourself.. and be successful for you in all that you do.
Do not focus on the other women all over him. Focus on your fun loving relationship... people get turned off by jelouse partners.
And above all pray for peace of mind in you! And dont let your imagination run wild and make things worse..
And be a lady of Class! And don't spend so much time convincing others that you love him and he loves you and that not to worry he does not lead them on... we are strangers and none of us will worry... it really comes down to it ... if your worried.. And how you will decide to put your frame of mind into this situation!
God Bless and Peace!
2006-12-20 17:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by Esther J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust yourself to let him go and be the social person he is. Love yourself enough when you feel the urge to get jealous comes on excuse yourself from the situation. If there is no way to get away then be brave and blend in to what is going on. Keep up in conversation when he is talking to others (Girls). Be strong and don't be afraid of beautiful people there that, just people not gods. Insecurity is what makes us jealous and if you work on being secure you won't get jealous. There is nothing worse than someone who gets out of control with their Jealousy. Its hard on you and the one your dating.
2006-12-20 17:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol well i kinda had the same problem
if he's friends with these girls tell ur boyfriend that it bothers you and u need him to tell them to stop. he needs to make it clear that what they're doing is NOT okay. especially when he has a girlfriend and EXTRA especially when you're there.
if he wont/cant/doesnt do this. try doing this: next time it happens say "hes mine, hands off ladies." push them out of the way and start kissing him. they should get the picture that they need to lay off the goods. Keep doing it until they stop. even be a bit mean if you have to. they're totally violating ur rights as a girlfriend and they need to learn to BACK OFF AND FIND THEIR OWN!
2006-12-20 17:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by sunkist3122 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I struggled with the same thing. It wasn't that I didn't trust him...it was because the girls were all over him. It actually broke us up for awhile. We're back together now, but I had to prove to him that I changed. What helped me was to actually get to know the girls he hung around with. If you do this, they're less likely to act that way, especially when you're around. They'll understand that you two are together and see that its serious and back off. But yeah I definitely agree, it's something that's hard to get used to.
2006-12-20 17:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by n1coley22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and if he really loved you that he wouldn't want to hurt you by entertaining all these girls...He obviously likes the fact that girls are hanging on his shoulders..he maybe an attention whore..who nows??!! But don't allow him to hurt you this way.
2006-12-20 17:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does he need all these girls then....? if he is so in love with you why are all these girls all in his nuts? it's not you, its him....if he has respect for you he would not have them in your face..there is a time and a place for that stuff....His lady should be special and she should not come second to no one...and she should be the center of attention and not the tag along,,,your not pushing him away....he is pushing you away...
2006-12-20 17:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by hatchetmistress 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, if he knows that it upsets you, he should let these girls know that they need to back off. Otherwise, he must like the attention.
2006-12-20 17:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it. Thats why hes with YOU. If he wanted those other girls he would date them. I went through this.. just make some guy friends yourself!!
2006-12-20 17:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by g00dapple 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋