Im starting to think he is an alcoholic and i have for awhile now.
He is a great guy and i love him so much. Bu t i hate when he gets drunk he becomes to friendly and annoying he embarreses himself. He drinks everyday after work and even thou it may very from 2 drinks to 6 drinks a night he says he doesnt drink to get drunk but drinks cause he likes the taste and it quenches his thirst after a hard days work.
Then on weekends he will buy a carton 24beers and drink them all (he gets a carton every weekend). He will drink to extent as well cause he drinks so fast and he gets really drunk and i hate it.
Can anyone relate or give me some advise.
Thanks
2006-12-20 17:39:56 · 24 answers · asked by hayzmarie84 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
this is my question- would he but 24 cans of coke and drink them all? what about 24 bottles of water? In the time frame that he drinks that much beer? It is very unlikely that he wouldn't- quenching the thirst is an excuse and this guy has a problem. He may be a great guy but he needs a reality check and YOU CANNOT CHANGE HIM, nor can you make him see the light. Let him know that you see a problem and why it is a problem for you- then if he is not willing to get help and see it through- you need to get out of there. He is using the alcohol to escape reality - believe me from experience it is nothing to brush off or take lightly- until he is ready to confront and deal with life and what really is behind his drinking, he is not ready for a relationship and to really care for and respect another individual as he does not respect himself yet. He is an alcoholic- "the taste" and "quenches the thirst" are excuses- one beer is sufficient for that purpose- this is in excess and it will only get worse from here if not dealt with
2006-12-20 17:53:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say that you are correct. He is definitely an alcoholic.
For example, 24 beers in 48 hours is way above normal. Anyone who has 2 to 6 drinks every day is addicted. No matter what a great guy he is, the potential for him causing you and himself pain and embarrassment is very high. If you can, it would be wise to gently and kindly disengage yourself from him. As a friend, you might see if you can get him to admit that he has a problem. With love, and without anger or name-calling, see if you can get him to an AA meeting. He will deny that he has a problem, but he is ill and needs to get help. He will also say if you leave him he will drink more, etc. There are also programs for families and friends of alcoholics. Get help now. and Good Luck!
2006-12-20 17:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by roscoedeadbeat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get him some help. At this point it is fairly serious amount of drinking, enough to cause severe health issues later on down the line, let alone mental ones now.
Even if he is not a "mean drunk" (ie gets drunk and beats you or whatnot) it is still an unhealthy thing he is doing, and could eventually make a turn for the worst.
His excuses are very weak. The fact that he is even using excuses to explain his drinking is a huge red flag. If all he needed was to quench his thirst, then he could drink a glass of water.
2006-12-20 17:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by my_organic_love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's an alcoholic and doesn't know it yet- but you suspect it-
confront him on it now- bet him something that he can't go 1 month without a drink- a true alcoholic wont last 2 weeks. If he can go a month- you sneakily cured him of his bad habit- praise him for his loss of weight- because you know he will lose his beer belly and "reward" him in whatever way you know he would be happy. Hopefully you can keep him in check--- a drink a couple of times a week is okay-- drinks every day and many is a problem-- if he refuses- leave him or you are in for a life of abuse.
2006-12-20 18:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow he sounds just like me and my bf.. when we first got to gether we would drink that much or more and every weekend a half gallon of liquor and sometimes beer too..we really did not enjoy getting so drunk but at the time we could not see this..i would talk to him and ask him to just cut back that is what we did ..i wont drive when i am drinking and he don't drive .. so what it do is on the days we drink and we don't drink everyday anymore /// i would be each of us a half pint or a pint if it is the weekend and when were through with that we have a light buzz but we can enjoy our buzz and each other more// he may not be a alcoholic but if he keep going that way he will be
2006-12-20 23:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone drinks more than a couple everyday, they are an alcoholic - plain and simple. He will deny that fact until he dies - I can guarantee you that. People drink to "take the edge off" or whatever, but what do you think that means? It means they like the way alcohol makes them feel. Just be cautious of people that have extreme changes of behavior when they drink - this means problems are probably developing.
2006-12-20 17:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by thatguy2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely sounds like he's drinking to avoid a problem. Maybe he's stressed, hates his work or something? Once in a while it doesn't hurt to get wrecked, but every weekend is a bad sign. I don't think 3-6 beers every night is healthy either. One or two a day won't kill anybody. You should raise the subject with him ASAP. Good luck.
2006-12-23 23:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by Father Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he has a problem, but im certainly not a doctor or an expert. If he thinks he doesn't have a problem, ask him to quit for a week and see what happens. Make sure you have plenty of cold water, juice, and pop to quench his thirst after work. If he can do it, cool, if not, he might be an alcoholic, or at least on his way.
2006-12-20 17:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An alcoholic is a person that drinks 2 or more drinks per day. Perhaps, you can get him to cut back tp a few days per week. If he can't reduce his drinking to at least 3-4 days per week then I would suggest he has a problem. If that is the case, you should get out now to avoid bigger future problems.
2006-12-20 17:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not good for you to drink like that. Maybe you should talk to him...before it gets out of hand. I know a lot of people who drink everyday..and they are not alcoholics...good luck
The def of a Alchoholic is:
Alcoholism is the consumption of or preoccupation with alcoholic beverages to the extent that this behavior interferes with the alcoholic's normal personal, family, social, or work life. The chronic alcohol consumption caused by alcoholism can result in psychological and physiological disorders. Alcoholism is one of the world's most costly drug use problems; with the exception of nicotine addiction, alcoholism is more costly to most countries than all other drug use problems combined[citation needed].
While alcohol use is required to trigger alcoholism, the biological mechanism of alcoholism is uncertain. For most people, moderate alcohol consumption poses little danger of addiction. Other factors must exist for alcohol use to develop into alcoholism. These factors may include a person's social environment, emotional health and genetic predisposition. In addition, an alcoholic can develop multiple forms of addiction to alcohol simultaneously such as psychological, metabolic, and neurochemical. Each type of addiction must be treated individually for an alcoholic to fully recover.
2006-12-20 17:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by HarleeNicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋