I've started falling in love with a girl I met in college back in October. I think about her all the time and can't get her out of my head. She is definetally into me. However, she has a boyfriend who is a long distance relationship (they've been going out maybe a month)...he lives about 50 miles away, she see's him once every 2 weeks if she's lucky.
She is a very loyal and sweet girl. She's smart and she is unlike all the other girls I meet. I could've had sex w/ her but I don't want to pressure her because I really like her and want a relationship w/ her...she wanted to have her way w/ me...but didn't b/c she'd feel horrible about her b/f.
I am going crazy over her. My questions is how should I play this? Laid back don't show as much interest and let her come around? Or should I really tell her how I am falling in love w/ her? I don't wanna seem like I'm pressuring her, but at the same time I feel like I'm not doing enough to win her heart.
2006-12-20 17:37:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok,im going to answer this thinking of what i would want you to do if i was her. and actually i was in her posistion very recently so i think this should help. although she may still have some feelings for the other guy, you are with her right now, you are close if she needs you, and if it has crossed her mind to cheat on him with you then she is really into you. and you said you love her right? think for a second about..what you would and wouldnt do for true love and happiness. i think you should say something like this: "i understand, and respect the fact that you have a boyfriend, and you are loyal to him i would never want you to do something against your morals. but i must tell you this, i am really falling for you. i cant get you off my mind, and i really think that there is some kind of connection, or chemistry between us. im telling you this because i think you feel the same way. if you dont, its ok i would still love to be a good friend to you. i am here for youif you need me. but i cant be left wondering whether there is a chance of something happening between us or not"
maybe tell her how far you are willing to go to be with her, ofcourse not in a creepy way.
i have met the guy i feel like i am supposed to be with for the rest of my life, and honestly i would give up anything for him because nothing seems as important as being with your one true love.
2006-12-20 17:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her how you feel. I was in a similar situation as your girl last year. I was in a relationship with a guy who lived here during the year and went back home during the summer. During the summer I met a guy who simply would not give up on me. He knew I had a boyfriend and that we had been together about 4 months before I met this guy. I told him repeatedly to leave me alone and to not talk to me. (I actually thought he was really creepy!!) And he respected my wishes and it seemed like he had given up. I had forgotten about him and my boyfriend came back and we were still together, until I ran into this guy on campus about 3 months later. We started talking again and he admitted that it was the worst 3 months he had ever had and that he thought about me everyday and wasn't going to give up until he had me. The more we started to talk, the more I thought I would be SO MUCH better off with this guy than my boyfriend. About 2 months later I broke up with my boyfriend and then 2 months after that this guy and I started dating. We have been together almost a year now and we are so much in love. I am so glad that he never gave up on me, and was so persistent and let me know how he felt. Otherwise I might have missed out on what is the greatest relationship of my life. You should definitely tell this girl how you feel, you will regret it if she slips away. Good luck!
2006-12-20 17:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by trs_shortie9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her how much you love her and whatever YOUR plans are, then she has the pressure of telling Mr 50mi, she's found someone new or telling you she's more into Mr 50 mi. She's the one who has to make up her mind, giving her some thoughts on YOUR side of the story will help her decide.
2006-12-20 17:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k., i'm a girl and i say if you acted like you didn't care i'd kick ou to the curb so don't do that. does she really love him? if she doesn't then you've got a pretty good chance. show your good side, but also let her see the real you. since you said she has shown intrest, and you said she doesn't get to see him as often as she might like spend lots of time with her so she may get more space between him and get closer to you. tell her how you feel...
2006-12-20 17:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lyssa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A word of cautioin. If she dumps her current boyfriend because he's not around. The same thing could happen to you.
2006-12-20 17:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by kytho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one but you should ask her how she feels about you and then make a choice on how you want to handle it, so you dont feel too pressured to tell her or lead her on.
good luck
2006-12-20 17:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since her and this guy arent too serious yet. Straight up ask the girl. Let your feelings be known.
2006-12-20 17:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by g00dapple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing her b/f could be cheating on her.two,tell her how you Reilly fill about her.just dint tell her about having sex with her she might fall in love with you .
2006-12-20 17:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by pizzacrys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER BEFORE SHE GETS AWAY IF YOU CARE THAT MUCH AND KEEP HOMER IN YOUR PANTS
2006-12-20 17:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by JERRY L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋