I have been talking to this guy for over two years online...3 months ago we met and really connected. He lives an hour and a half away so it has been difficult for us to se each other. Now he has gone even farther away for work and will not be back for 3 months. I told him I was falling for him just before I found out he had to leave and work in another state...It has been 2 weeks since he left and I have only heard from him once...He had to borrow a computer to talk to me...He implied that he would be faithful to me, but has yet to confirm any "feelings" for me. What do you think I should do?
2006-12-20 17:26:20 · 11 answers · asked by MARY L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I think giving him the benefit of the doubt is the way to go. You've been talking to him for over two years, you really connected when you did meet ... it adds up to something. Implying that he'll be faithful is a good sign, it's almost a shy way of confirming that there is something between you two. Perhaps he just has difficulty expressing his feelings and can't say what he really wants to say. All in all, I'd not make any decisions until he gets home and you see how he acts then. You've given him two years so far ... what's a couple of months?
2006-12-20 18:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by Gabi'sMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...he is using you. If he really had feelings for you..you would know it...He would tell you. You do not need to waste your time on "love on the internet"! It just does not happen usually!
Again if he cared for you...he would have told you....and someone that is in love will do anything to be with him/her. They would not move farther away from you.
Do you really think he had to borrow a computer??? They offer computers and internet everywhere you go now. Motel chains have computers/internet...internet cafe's...so on and so on.
It has been two weeks and you only heard from him once?
Please read these words without being offended..please take this advice....MOVE ON...get over this...find love for real in the real world..might be right under your nose and you just don't know it!
The guy is probably married....have you ever thought of that?? People will tell you anything on the internet!
Save yourself some heartache
Forget him
2006-12-21 01:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by sherri p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm I think the ball is in his court now. Honestly he doesn't sound so sensitive to your feelings.. yes he's busy with work (I find it hard to believe he had trouble accessing a computer, though.. unless he's a park ranger or something)... but he could have said something to you. The implication of him being faithful is a good sign, though... just wait and see what happens. If he doesn't contact you for a while that's not good obviously... but for the next couple weeks see how it plays out without you making contact. It's really hard to say, sorry.
2006-12-21 01:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably scared him off by telling him you were falling for him. Three months isn't a very long period of time and maybe he just wasn't ready for that yet. Next time, maybe you could move just a little slower. Everybody wants to jump right into things these days and that only leads to problems down the road.
2006-12-21 01:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well well well when u say that he has implied that hed be faithful i kinda dont think he will be especially if he hasnt said how he feels about u chances are he'll find someone else and youll be left without knowing where you stand with him. give it a few weeks then if hes still so distant move on plenty of guys out there dont waste ur time on this one
2006-12-21 01:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey i dont know what to tell you except this and that is find yourself someone who lives close to you to have a relation ship with,because hony im shore you dont want to hear this but im going to tell you anyway if this guy had any felling for you he would show them and another thing if he really care about you like you care about him there are such things called phones you know all he would have to do is call you,it just sounds to me like he wants a peice when he in town and doesnt really care about you when hes out of town,and do you really think hes not messing around on you why hes away because im sure he probly is,but i nor nobody else can make your deceisions for you,because your the onlyone who can do that and your the only one that knows what your heart tells you and what your heart exspects i just hope you make the right choice and dont end up getting hurt ok,so please let me know how it turns out and i wish you the best of luck nomatter what your deceision may be ok
2006-12-21 01:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by DAVE S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he says he'll be faithful he obviously has feelings for you. Why dont you get his number and call or text him?
2006-12-21 01:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by g00dapple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things keep going this way then it is not even a relationship really. Relationships should make you happy! If you aren't happy find one that will make you happy.
2006-12-21 01:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lexi Lexington 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really "felt" for you, you would have heard from him a lot more by now. My guess is...he really isnt that into you! Move on.
2006-12-21 01:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He deserves a chance
2006-12-21 01:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋