my 11yr old lost her fave nightmare before xmas sweater at middle school. she is so upset,she ran to office but nothing was there.i work with kids in a dental office. and i saw a patient wearing her sweater! itt barely fit her! i asked questions and yes-goes to same school. said friend just bought for her b-day recently(dont make sweater any more).she said friend had to wash it cuz had white cat hair on it..(we have white cat!) i was so upset working on her knowing that was the sweater my child has been crying over! i told her my daughter lost a sweater at school..and she froze and didnt say a word! Now, should i talk to mom and ask? they are white trash so i dont think i will get a good response Help? what should i do!!!????
2006-12-20 17:06:05 · 11 answers · asked by mommy 3 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would somehow (HOWEVER YOU CAN!!) contact the mother of this child whether white trash or not! It is not OK for someone to 'steal' this sweater. Yes, it is considered stealing because they lied about how they got it. Your poor daughter!!! This makes me mad! The same thing happened with my son, last year he lost his NBA jersey shirt that was personally signed by Shaquille O'Neal, his favorite player. He was devastated and at the grocery store I saw another child about his age wearing it, and I recognized Shaq's signature so I knew it was my son's. I confronted his mother and asked where they got it because my son had recently lost his. She was a difficult one, and claimed that they had bought it at an out-of-town gift shop. I told her to check the inside tag of the jersey, because it said my son's name. She was persistent in pleading I was 'invading her personal space' but she looked in the tag and it surely was my son's. We learned to always write our name in the tags of our favorite clothes, but at least we got the shirt back. I advise you to calmy confront the mother. Say 'I am your family dentist and noticed your child's sweater is the one my daughter lost. It's always been her favorite and she's been in tears about it. Could we please have it back?' DON'T give up! Don't let them win! POlitely persist and you'll get it back. GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-20 17:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mental Patient 29 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Our son had a similar situation and this is what happened. An uncle bought the 8 yr old a professional grade trick bike. The color was specifically designed for a particular professional and could only be found on this model. While at the end of our street another child from another neighborhood knocked him off of the bike and then drove down a block and passed the bike on to another rider. 3 riders in all. A witness identified the first rider. We confronted the parents of the children and told them to return the bike and we would drop it. Rather than return the bike they disposed of it. We took them to court. The families made restitution in the amount of a 1000.00 in 1997. We were satisfied.
More than likely , the teens parents will deny it or she will dispose of the sweater. You have nothing to lose by asking. You may get the sweater back. If not, then try to get your child another special sweater. There are several sites that sell the sweater. Just search "nightmare before christmas sweater". Good luck!
2006-12-20 23:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Tough one. I used to have stuff stolen from me all the time in school- and it's not even the kid's fault when this happens. I'm a pretty honest person, but even I know how to crack the code on a locker combination. Nothing they take to school is safe.
I would advise that if you are VERY polite, and don't come across like you know the answer already, it might be worth it to talk to the kid's mom. Just ask her where the child got the sweater, and tell her (very nicely) what you just told us. If nothing comes of it, then nothing comes of it, but it may be worth it to at least TRY. Do mention the fact that the sweaters are no longer made, but don't forget that there were probably thousands of them at one time.
If it doesn't work, you can tell your child you tried, and I'd really reccommend advising her against confronting the other girl about this after you talk to the mom. You don't want to turn into the bad guys. And then hit ebay.
2006-12-20 19:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You simply cannot accuse a child of stealing without proof. In reality, I'm sure that many thousands of those sweaters were made, and though this one may be your daughter's, can you prove it? If you confront the child, and you are wrong, what have you accomplished other than hurting her needlessly which you have probably already done with your attitude of the family being "white trash", a very unprofessional and irresponsible attitude for someone in your field. I'm sure that any family who cares enough to provide routine dental care for their children doesn't quite qualify for "white trash" status. Your child has simply "lost" her sweater and will learn to be more responsible in the future. A good lesson to learn.
2006-12-20 17:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by mannersplease 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There's no reason to be sure that the girl who was wearing the sweater knew that it previously belonged to your daughter. Perhaps her friend really did give it to her. I would say that this is a good example where your daughter can say, "If she really needs this sweater, she should keep it," and move on with her life. Especially because your daughter lost it at school, the girl who got it first probably didn't actually intend to steal it, but just found it.
2006-12-20 17:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
they don't seem to be doing something incorrect it quite is you who're incorrect. you probably did no longer do the chores so which you're being punished via having privilages like your television taken away. Your mother and father are doing their job and you ought to discover ways to do yours. So what your brothers don't have chores, they are youthful than you and that may not the factor. you already know you have particular initiatives around the residing house so do them and you will no longer have privilages taken away. To confront your mother and father will basically get you greater punishment. discover ways to be an grownup and guard your household initiatives.
2016-10-15 08:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by millie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not confront her. You still have no real evidence that this happened. Although it very well may be your daughters sweater, it is gone now. The sad truth is your daughter was careless with her belongings and there is nothing to be done now. She just needs to be a bit more responsible with her things. This should be a good way for her to learn that. Maybe you could find another online or something.
2006-12-20 17:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Honestly....I would just leave it be. They have enough problems if they have to steal a sweater, and its only going to cause turmoil and aggression. You're work in a dental's office, they could find many ways to retaliate against you (for example, reporting you against health or malpractice agencies for things you never did). They won't give it back if you confront them, the girl wasn't going to just strip the sweater off and hand it to you.
Its convincing evidence, but you're just going to have to accept that your daughter lost her dear sweater.
Is there any chance of getting a new one?
2006-12-20 17:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bobby D 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Maybe, first off, you should call them something other than white trash. If you didn't even know she went to the same school, you won't know if they're trash or not. You can't judge anyone by their money and clothing and it's rude of you to do that.
2006-12-20 17:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
call the police if things get too complicated and they get too hard-headed,
no matter what they stole, it's the principle that matters, it's your property, you have the right to possess, and they took it unlawfully.
2006-12-20 17:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋