Is there a reason for me?

Question

It's like I can never make my parents proud. I have two brothers who are both great quarterbacks like my dad, and I have an older sister who is a straigt A student who won homcoming queen. Me, nothing. I am always sick all the time, so i waste alot of my parents money, and they always complain about it. My mom rely wants me 2 play softball also, but i tore my sholder in 4 different muscles so i couldnt play that season n i dont like it that much. But after that i played volleyball, and im rely good at it and even won MVP, but i can neva get my parents 2 come 2 a game. They jus dont care. And i want 2 tell them wut there doin n that its hurtin me, but i cant n im startin 2 not care at all anymore, n im scared im going 2 end up doin sumthing rely stupid..wut should i do? jus quit volleyball n not tell my parents wen i feel sick anymore so they wont have 2 take me 2 the hospital n waste their money? Please help n give me advise. (sry so long 2)

Answer 1

Don't stop trying I know someday your parents will notice. There's no fail unless you give up. If you're good at Volley I think you should continue. I know you want your parents to care for you but if they don't care about you I'm sure there's allot of people in the world that's going to care for you. Like people who gives answer to your question in here.

Answer 2

Quitting volleyball is not the correct solution. You have found out something you are good at..... you need to keep at it and get better.

With regard to your parents not coming to the game, if not your parents, invite your siblings to watch a match... if you did well, they would definitely tell your parents about it... that could change their mind...

I feel most of your health issues are more to do with your mind and not your physical self. Get better at your game, make some new friends to hang out with... and cultivate more hobbies if you have more free time...

This way, you can be at peace with yourself. Parents do not neglect children on purpose. They are human beings too... and need some inspiration to work too... Show them you are capable of succeeding and they would definitely pay more attention to you.

Never lose hope .... that's what keeps us all going.

Answer 3

Dear Child plz realize we are all different. Your parents love you same as the other children. We all have those days when we feel not so great. some just have them so often we don't see others having them. Hug your parents and tell them you love them. That is what a parent wants more than anything most of the time

Answer 4

Don't quit volleyball ... do it for yourself, you enjoy it, you're really good at it and as much as you want your parents involved you are what matters. Someday they'll be gone and all you'll have is what you've accomplished. I'm oldest of 4 and my mom doesn't recall dance classes because she was caring for the young ones, at first it bothered me but then I say I had that experience and it was good for me. Some people thrive because of support others inspite of the lack of support. BE IMPORTANT TO YOURSELF, VALUE WHO YOU ARE ... , everything else will follow. and I'm sorry to hear you're sick all the time ... what ever it is I hope you'll overcome that too.

Answer 5

An only child may wonder if he was really wanted. But a fourth child knows he was wanted, because your parents had to work to have you enter their life. Athletics seem to be a way of life in your family. If you are excelling ,scheduling for a specific sport may cause trouble to attend. If you are sick tell them, do not hide problems from them. They are the only people who really care what happens to you.

Answer 6

Don't compare yourself with anybody else.Each one of us is special and unique in his(her)own way.Maybe your parents don't see it now but you will approve it for them one day.Considering your activities-do what makes YOU happy.Create a good environment around you,choose nice friends.Any time you are not OK,you feel sick,you must tell your parents!Paying the fees for hospital isn't WAISTING money,YOU ARE THEIR CHILD.Maybe it's hard for them financially but be sure they are happy to help you.Wait for right situation and talk to them about your feelings,remove everything from inside you.They are probably not aware of their mistakes.Good luck and strong health!

Answer 7

You are so VERY special! Don't let life's common circumstances cloud your vision of the future. I promise that everything you are going through is not only important to building your character, but vital in finding out who you really are and what you're really made of. Be patient. Things like this take time to work out. Be PATIENT my dear. Take a deep breath and tell yourself EVERYTHING will be O.K.!!! Awesome Awesome Awesome things come to those who WAIT! R.S.V.P.if you like.

Answer 8

hey hun, your are special, god made you just the way that he wants you. you do have free will, so use that free will to stop beating yourself up, and stop putting expectations on your parents, first off they are not perfect and they do love you. stop playing the victim. you ARE NOT a victim. not telling your parents your sick is just gonna make things worse. they are your parents and are responsible for your health. have your parents ever came to you and said Lizzie, we are not proud of you? have they ever? or that they dont want to take care of you when your sick? ever once? you will start feeling better about the situation when you start feeling better about yourself. put the bat away and stop beating yourself up.

Answer 9

Sick how? I hope you aren't hurting yourself. If not, good, don't start. Your parents are just oblivious to your efforts, because they're focused on your siblings over-achieving. Being normal isn't so bad. If you can just find who the true you is, that is all you'll need. You don't need your parents approval to be happy.

Answer 10

I would let them know how you feel.