I am pregnant but my fiance told me last night he doesn't want to have kids right now because he wants to further his carrer in the military. What should I do?
2006-12-20 16:45:54 · 36 answers · asked by almost married 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i feel like he is just feeling like that right now but if he know he might feel different.but i advise u before you tell him please pray and ask the lord to help u make the right decision.because always remember he does not put nothing on u you can't bare.but i wish you the best of luck.always remember talking always help and let him know it takes too he should have strapped up.
2006-12-20 17:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by mssteele2008 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there isn't much you can do. I know you're scared, but think of this in a positive way--you're about to get married and this is perhaps the biggest issue you two will have to deal with. If you can come to a solution together then you can go on with the marriage as planned, but if he flips out you'll know that marrying him was a bad idea before you got married.
Talk to him, that's all you can do.
If he leaves you, you can always get an abortion (if you believe it's ok... i'm not getting into any debate whether it's ok or not, but it is an option), adopt, or keep the baby and raise it yourself.
Who knows, maybe this will work out fine? You need to talk to him, though. Good luck =)
2006-12-20 16:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it! it's not the babies fault that it isn't the right time and therefore you should take the responsible step of raising it. My fiance is also in the Navy and wouldn't have dreamt of having a child at such a young age - but in the end you are the one raising your child while he has to travel back and forth to timbucktoo... I've walked your shoes and i had my son who's now 5 years old and i can't imagine life without him.
2006-12-20 17:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself what you want....if you are afraid of losing him if you keep the baby, dont worry, if he loves you he will stand by your side through thick and thin. if he doesnt stand by your side and you want to KEep the baby, just imagine 10 or 20 years from now and finding out then that you wasted your life with a selfish man who doesnt care about what you want..you will find out now before you even get married. if you dont want the child either and you have other plans right now, you could get an abortion, you have to ask yourself 2 things, one can you live with yourself after and be very careful in the future, abortion shouldnt be used as a form of birth control...be responsible! two abortion is legal, but risky, the risk is that it could damage your body for future pregnancies....hope you make the right decision for YOU, not what someone else wants.
2006-12-20 16:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Evie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KEEP THE BABY, don't what ever you do give the baby up. He might not want children right now cause he wants to still futher his carrer in the militry but later on he might. Make sure you ask him about it aswell.
2006-12-20 16:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by εїз♥ ZÕË♥ εїз 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make that decison for yourself. do yo want kids? do you want to have an abortion simply because he doesn't want to have children? And if he's always felt this way, why didn't you use protection? I think his excuse is lame. There are plenty of high ranking military officers who have families. Perhaps you need to take a better look at your relationship.
2006-12-20 16:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Navy wife.. And I say to sit him down and tell him that you already are pregnant and that everything happens for a reason and that you are going to keep this baby! Trust me, you can have happy families in the military!
2006-12-20 16:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by nik<3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A new born child is a gift from God and it is your joint responsibility to raise that child. You are both being given the resposibility of being parents. A baby is not something you can return to the 'store' and ask for a refund.
2006-12-20 17:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ginge T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless YOU are up for an abortion or adoption, I would say goodbye to him. I know he should have a say in having a child, but you do have the final say. OR, you can talk him into it. I hope this was an accident and not something you planned on your own.
2006-12-20 16:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by Chicago Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for you to get tough. What do you want? You know--if you have the child- take care of it yourself----It's very difficullt. You can put it up for adoption- that's no shame. Lots of people can't have babies. Are you settled in a nice career to support a child?
2006-12-20 16:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋