Sometimes we feel our past selves are completely dead and a new, more mature person has taken place. But when the parent can't tell the difference or has never bothered to know their children's life philosophies then how are people supposed to feel loved by their naive parents? There is no real identity.
2006-12-20 16:41:02 · 5 answers · asked by poke 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i agree with you.
Sometimes, parents can be more like a child than their own children. It is for certain that we shed our old shelves and move on different each and every time after something important happens. Parent's/ Parents' love are supposed to be the same no matter how you change. They might be too light (un-deep) to our changes probably because they never took risks in their lives/ explored further beyond the safety net.
2006-12-20 16:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Blessed Person :-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they loved you when you were a baby, and didn't even have a life philosophy and they had to attend your every need and get up in the middle of the night for you, and kissed and held you when all you did was cry and make messes and need things and had no identity to begin with.
If someone can love you when you were born and were nothing but trouble and couldn't even smile in thanks, how could they not love you now, even if they don't know everything about you?
They may feel they don't need to know the details to love you. My advice would be to either enlighten them, if you think it would give you the relationship with them that you want, or simply accept their naive, unconditonal, unknowing love.
Best to you.
2006-12-21 00:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The adult child should move from trying to still seek their parents approval. Some parents simply don't get it and have brought their own childhood issues into their parenting skills.
The adult child has to find other places to fill their emotional bank and not look at the parents to make any deposits into that bank...it just wont happen.
2006-12-27 23:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by femmenoire@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents don't want to see their children grow up and it hurts them to know that their children have conscientiously buried their past to emerge into a new, more mature person. Parenting doesn't come with instructions so they just don't know how to communicate love and acceptance towards their adult children, but that doesn't mean they don't love their children.
2006-12-21 00:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are all young kids here...so let me enlighten YOU....being a parent is no picnic and it is a thankless job...it's a wonder anyone chooses to be a parent...how many of you would choose to spend every dime you have, all your free time cleaning, caring ., reading, helping with homework, driving them here and there and then have the kid feel and act like you do???? and to suggest that you want your parents to know you and yet you dont try to know them at all......face it, you are seeking approval from parents but nothing more unless they still give you money..you want nothing to do with their opinions or helping them with anything..so grow up and remember that you'll be at the same place someday, just as clueless to your kids!
2006-12-21 01:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋