I had a long distance relationship with this guys for two and a halfs months but he ended up telling me that he was lonely and wanted to see me instead of talking on the phone all the time. He also told me that he had met someone else bc i was not there. they became boyfriend and girlfriend two days later. their relationship only lasted for three weeks and now we have been talking again but just as friends. he recently told me that he still has strong feeling for me but i just dont know if i should have that type relationship with him and yes i still do care about him. what should i do
2006-12-20 16:24:29 · 7 answers · asked by superstar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
long distance relationships require two strong-minded people. he obviously is weak. there is a difference between being alone and being lonely and he isn't mature enough yet to figure it out. give him a silver star for being honest and coming clean because he could have played you. but how long will it be before he is "lonely" again? i say move on. he had his chance and blew it. don't allow yourself to be used and hurt again.
2006-12-20 16:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by sweettee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say you had a relationship with him for two and a half months was it a mutually exclusive relationship? If so, then he did break a trust with you. Relationships are difficult enough when there is mutual trust and respect. I would have to seriously consider finding someone else that is more deserving.
If there wasn't a mutual understanding of your relationship being exclusive, then you may actually be on a different page than he is. Therfore, there isn't a trust issue. The question here is whether or not you want to stick around to see if you both arrive at the same place. Even though 2 and a half months seems like a long time, it really isn't. You're still in the getting to know one another stage. This is especially true if this has always been a long distance relationship. So, you may want to try and slow it down and see where it goes. The two of you may be wanting seperate things. If so, then you have a choice to either slow it down or move forward without him.
In the end, it has to be your decision. Good Luck!
2006-12-21 00:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs someone right there for him and he is not mature enough to handle a long distance relationship, like you! Yes you still like him and feel strong for him, but do you want a boy who can't handle or a man who is down? There are plenty of guys out there that aren't long distance and would treat you like a queen. So, keep the friendship thing with him ( if he can even handle that) and find you a real man. Life is too short for the drama. Good luck!
2006-12-21 00:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by SOLO KING 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out. Strong feelings don't mean commitment for a relationship.
2006-12-21 00:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should remain friends with him. It's okay to date other people and still talk to him. You're young - that's expected.
2006-12-21 00:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't go back to him .... he will think that u r so easy an availble.... dear i know guys more than u i have enough experience in my life.
Go find some one else .
2006-12-21 00:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by black cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would move on he will stray again when it suits him.
2006-12-21 00:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by The_Game 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋