I'm pregnant. how do i tell my parents, my boyfriend, and my best guy friend who also would be the father?

Question

I don't know what to do. I've been avoiding my best guy friend for two or three months, ever since we slept together. My boyfriend, who I've been with for about a year, doesn't know. It was my first time ever having sex. i haven't told anyone that I'm pregnant. my parents will freak if they find out. I'm too young to be a mom. maybe i shouldn't tell them. maybe i should just get rid of it.

Answer 1

One thing is for sure depending on how far along you are and your body shape, you want be able to hide this long. I suggest you speak with someone at DSS who can refer you to a counslor and give you options as stated by another person here.

It's your choice on to keep or not keep the child, however once you make this decision and all is said and done IF you decide to abort the unborn then keep it to yourself and don't say anything to your boyfriend or father.

You will of course most likely have to tell your parents and they might agree to keep this quiet for your sake if your young. This wil be a lesson well learned for you I hope.

IF you decide to keep this child and place for adoption then course you'll have to tell the father and your boyfriend and expect to lose the boyfriend thats a no brainer there.

Hun, in the future keep those panties up until your old enough to know sex=babies nothing is 100% unless you are sterile! That's harsh and may be mean to say to you, but it's the truth and you need to hear that right about now. It's called tough love sweetie!!

Take some time maybe tonight and think about what you want to do... keep the baby, give the baby up for adobtion or abort? The clock is ticking so you don't want to waste to much time thinking about what you should do until you want have a choice but to carry this child.

Best of luck to you
Let this lesson be one well learned !!

Bless your heart!

Answer 2

Be a real friend and tell her parents. They can get her checked out to see if she is pregnant for real or have an STD. I say tell her parents because so many things could go wrong and could possibly cost her her life. There are some STDs that will affect your menstrual period (make it late or not come at all) or unborn fetus. Ectopic pregnancies are life threatening if no medical attention is given ASAP. Be a good friend and tell or convince her to tell her parents. If she hates you after that, walk away with your head held high, because you did the right thing and when she gets older she will understand. She is way to young to be sexually active anyway. She did not even wear a condom, as if she is certain that her BF is having sex with only her. I doubt it!!! I can bet my life she does not know the ends and outs of sex. There is so much more than just doing it til he ejaculates.

Answer 3

You said you've been avoiding your best guy friend for two or three months - so that would make you 8 - 12 weeks pregnant which means you're going to lose one of your options soon.

You really need to sit down with a trusted adult and tell them about this issue. You have three different options and you need to decide which is the best choice for you. It'll be so much easier letting someone know that can help you.

Answer 4

First of all. STOP. This is a big decision and you need to be informed of all your options. If you rush into a decision, you may regret it for the rest of your life. You will most likely lose your boyfriend. That is a consequence of the decision you made to cheat. You should tell the father. He may not be supportive but I think this is also his responsiblity whatever you decide. After all, it takes two. You're parents may be very upset, but you are their daughter and they will always love you. They may be mad, but once the reality of the situation sets in, hopefully they will help you make an informed decision. My best advice is to not make any sudden decisions. Be sure of whatever you decide and next time, protect yourself. There are a lot worse things that could happen to you than getting pregnant.

Answer 5

Well, might want to change your nickname there. If you decide to terminate it you better be good at holding a secret because if you ever let it slip it will forever change the way people look at you. Trust me, I've seen it.

However, if you are going to go to term you should talk to your parents first, they will have life experience to give you advice on how to proceed. The best way i sto just tell them you are pregnant and let the conversation go from there.

Most definatly tell the father and your BF as well, get ready to be dumped though. It will be a hard decision but honestly, I think you should carry to term. Every girl I know who has had an abortion has always had a life long of guilt.

Answer 6

I've got 2 suggestions for you.

if you wanna be good:-
you should definitely tell your parents. they'll of course freak out, but, they're your parents and they'll always be there for you when situations like this test your living skills. make sue you open up to them in a way that no matter what happens, none of them get a cardiac arrest (smiles)..
and you MUST let your boyfriend know. since you said that he's a very fond friend of yours, he'll understand and he'll find ways to handle your current situation.
lastly, don't think about getting rid of the baby. this may be your golden opportunity to bring up your little one and concentrate in your future at the same time. a child, is god's gift. appreciate it. take the challenge.

if you wanna be bad:-
don't tell your parents and make them think that you've been sleeping around and now you're pregnant!
never tell your boyfriend because, for all you know, he might leave you and go off to Tenerife for a vacation and never come back!
lastly, DITCH the child! don't keep it as your goals in life can never be reached and you'll never be able to think of your comforts anymore. you'll have to go shopping for nappies and baby milk ALL the time.
so.. enjoy life to the fullest!

i hope i helped in some way!

Answer 7

So you cheated on your boyfriend with your best friend who happens to be a guy? And you seem young so you have to worry about your parents. You have to tell your parents, you can't hide this from them, if you had a daughter wouldn't you want to know?? Good luck! Try adoption!!

Answer 8

I strongly discourage abortion. Your parents, friends, etc can forgive the mistake.There is a precious little person growing inside of you and that is more important than anything else. You could offer the baby for adoption or find other pathways..... there's help through this website: http://www.etters.net/teen.pregnancy.htm
You can also call: 1-800-848-LOVE

Answer 9

This is a pretty shocking story young lady , I hope your just yanking our chain and spoofing us here . If not tell your parents right away before your too far along for a good whooping ! Behave yourself and stop your orneriness.

Answer 10

WELL YOU MAY BE TO YUNG TO BE A MOM BUT ITS TOO LATE TO THINK ABOUT THAT MAYBE YOUR TOO YOUNG TO HAVE SEX! ANY WAY YOUR FAMILY NEEDS TO KNOW AND YOU NEED TO FIGURE OUT WHEN YOU GOT THIS WAY SO YOU WILL KNOW WHO THE DAD IS HE HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW I KNOW IT ALL SOUND SO BAD NOW BUT MY SON GOT HIS GF PREG WHEN HE WAS 18 AND SHE WAS 16 THEY GOT MARRIED AND LIVE WITH US HE IS STILL IN COLLEGE AND SHE IS HOME SCHOOLING TO GRADUATED HS SHE IS A GREAT MO TO OUR 3 YR OLD GRAND SON AND A GOOD WIFE TO MY SON AND WE LOVE HER LIKE ONE OF OUR OWN THEY HAVE BEEN HERE FOR OVER 3 YRS AND HAVE ABOUT THAT MUH LONGER TO GO SO HE CAN GET HIS MASTERS IN ACCOUNTING I WOULD DO ANY THING TO HELP THEM MAKE SOMETHING OF THEMSELFS SO THEY CAN BE GOOD PARENTS TO MY GRAND BABY DONT LET FEAR CAUSE YOU TO MAKE BAD CHOICE S TALK TO A COUSLOR AND GET HELP THERE IS STATE AID THAT WILL PAY FORR YOU TO HAVE YOUR BABY TAKE CARE OF YOUR SELF AND THAT BABY IT IS A GIFT OF LIFE FROM GOD TAKE CARE OF IT LOVE IT AND TRY TO DO BETTER