Well my parents are divorced and my father is married again, but the thing is that the woman is really mean to me when my dad is not around. They live in another city and my dad wants me to go and vsit them for the Holidays, I wish I could say no, but he is so excited about my visit that I just can't do that to him, but his wife is just hideous what do I do????
I'm really nice to her but she keeps being mean, they used to live in MIAMI and they moved, now she is blaming me for that and won't let him spend a penny on me. On my last visit I got sick and the bi&ch won't let him pay for my medicines!!!!! I did't WANT him to pay for them 'cause I'm an adult and quite cappable of paying for anyhting I could need but the attitude is what bothers me.
Besides I don't think she treats him very well...
2006-12-20 16:09:21 · 2 answers · asked by nobodysfool 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well, he is you dad and since you're an adult, just ignore her. in fact, i would make it more of an effort to see him and call him. don't let this person get in the way of you spending time with your dad. it's her problem, let her deal with it. as far as not treating him well, is he elderly? an invalid? if not, he can take care of himself. maybe he just doesn't want to make a scene in front of you.
2006-12-21 12:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by ana g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult. That means those parent rules do not apply anymore. When you are with him you are an equal. From the student now the master. (yet always the student but thats another discussion) Her role in your life is partner to your father. She holds no power over you, especially your power of speech. If the conversation went as such,
"Father, i dont feel good."
"Daughter, would you like me to get you some medicine so you can feel better?"
"Fathers Wife says You dont need to pay for that for her!"
Then Daughters response should have been "Yes, Father I would appreciate that very much."
Notice how the Fathers Wife got totally bypassed there. She does not hold sway in your interactions with your dad.
Go visit and assert yourself, do not sit silent unless your saying everything with your eyes directly to hers.
2006-12-21 21:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by liddycaliente 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋