After all, they are strangers. What to ask? I don't want to seem nerdy. I also want to intrigue them so that they ask me questions too, and it's not one sided. All suggestions welcome
2006-12-20 15:58:47 · 22 answers · asked by aceventuradude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk about things you like to do. Last guy I dated told me he was into rock climbing, old cars, motorcycles (he had three), travelling (told me about places he'd been and wanted to go), etc etc. Tell her things about yourself that you like to do that are interesting. This will make you seem independent, desirable, active, etc.
Ask her what she likes to do.
The best thing to say first is "hello". then introduce yourself and ask for her name. Ask her where she's from, how long she's lived there etc. Tell her where you're from too...then go into things that you like to do and ask her what she likes to spend her spare time doing. Somewhere in here ask to buy her a drink. Then towards the end...ask her for her number. Say....Why don't you give me your number and I'll call you for dinner and/or a movie or something sometime?" or if you've found you have a similiar interest you can ask her to join you sometime...
p.s. I wouldn't ask her to dance unless you are a good dancer. I wouldn't be interested or sexually attracted to a guy who wasn't smooth...and being a clutz on the dance floor def. isn't smooth. and listening is good...but most girls like guys who are talkers and the center of attention (and funny too). I am just not attracted to guys who are mainly "listeners" ...those are the guys I always end up giving the "I think of you as just a friend" speech to. I see my friends do this w/ guys too...
2006-12-20 16:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by brittany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PICKED UP ???? Why are you around a bunch of women who are always falling down?? Get real--when you use the term pick up it sounds crude--Maybe how about this --Meeting a lady friend?? Now that we settled that :-) How about trying the Hi how are you can I buy you a cup of coffee or a cocktail?? Or if you see a lady across the room have the waitress take her whatever she is having and make sure the waitress points you out--Then is she has eye contact--go see if you may sit with her--Then ask her if she is local--that will open the door to if she is and you are (like grew up there) where did she attend school etc--What college did she go to--What does she do for a living--find common ground--sports--whatever--talk about her interests and if its things you don't know about its fine to learn--
2006-12-21 00:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look first for the woman who seems to be sneaking a peek at you and smiling. Women send out non-verbal cues to invite you over. At this point, as long as you are respectful, and don't dominate the conversation, you could talk about anything.
Ask her if she's been anywhere interesting. The strangest things that happened to her. If she speaks different languages. Does she have any kids, etc.
Ask her about her. Let her do the talking; if she likes you in return she will start asking questions about you.
2006-12-21 00:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by dkuddle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter what you tell them. They'll never remember. Actually you can strat a conversation on the most boring topics. If they're interested they'll keep talking. If not move on. Set your expectations accordingly, 8 out of 10 women won't be responsive. keep going until you find the 2 that will.
2006-12-21 00:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I don't think there is a one-size, fits all answer. I have friends, who enjoy talking about sports, fashion, cars, etc. But that all bores me to tears. I'd avoid contentious topics at first meeting (e.g. politics, war, religion...unless you've met her at church! ha ha) A compliment, so long as it is sincere, is a great opener. Also, I'd advise you to pay attention and be observant before you talk. You may notice something unique, which will provide the perfect topic. For example, you notice a book she has with her...and you know something about it.
Good luck!
2006-12-21 00:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Beni 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about "hello, my name is" for starters. Keep it simple. Let me be honest with you here. A girl can spot a guy who is picking them up a mile away. They know you are picking them up before you have even seen them. It doesn't matter what you say. If they are interested in you then a simple "hello" works just fine. If they are not interested in you then "hello" won't even matter. The best thing you can do is listen. Start with simple things like "I've never been here before. The music is great though. Is this your first time here or..." and let them start talking. Start with a compliment like "I hope you don't mind but I just wanted to say that you look very beautiful. I wanted to ask if you would like to dance?" Then dance with her and be very subtle about it. Let her look at you and think "he can't dance very well but he's cute for trying". Then go back and talk about "i know i can't dance very well" and let her start talking with "oh no, you did great, yada yada". You could even say "my friends wanted me to come with them tonight. i'm new in town and still checking out the sights. so what's fun around here?" Things like that. Whatever you do, however, BE THE LISTENER. I know women say they want to know what is on your mind, etc., but they actually want you to listen to them and only add a few comments here and there to show you are paying attention. Don't let your eyes wander around the room. Keep them on her. She is the only beautiful woman in the room. Remember that.
2006-12-21 00:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by achristian520 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask them a question about themselves. After they answer, relate a similar story about a female friend of yours. Then follow up with another question. Keep this going until you find something in common with her. Maintain eye contact and, at the end of the conversation, tell her that you'd like to chat with her again and that you'd like her phone number.
2006-12-21 00:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny Q. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask open-ended questions about things that they enjoy.
"Where would you go on vacation if you could go anywhere? Why?"
That's pretty much all there is to it. Open-endedness leaves it open for them to talk as much or as little as they want, which is also a good barometer for how chatty they are. Also, after they're done, you can answer your own question if they don't say anything, or say it first to coax them into replying.
2006-12-21 00:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by the_311_saint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are questions consistently posted on "how to talk to women"? What do you talk about when you hang out with your boys? You're comfortable around them, right? Well, unless your conversation with the boys is completely stupid and meaningless, try talking about the same stuff when approaching a woman. Pay her a compliment to break the ice. Talk about the weather. H*ll, make it funny and honest - say you just really want to talk to her and you're trying to find and excuse just to be in her presence. She might giggle and you'll get comfortable and flow from there. Just be yourself and don't try "lines".
2006-12-21 00:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by gabound75 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you should just be yourself and let whatever comes out just flow. However, I would suggest to stay away from controversial subjects(i.e., politics). However, this may suprise you-I have noticed the #1 mistake men seem to make when trying to talk to me is they forget to introduce themselves. They ask me TONS of questions about myself(name, where I'm from, what I like?, can I call you sometime?), but forget to even tell me their name...that really annoys me....
2006-12-21 00:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by mybootyisthatbig79 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋