i get to attached to easily like after the second date and im tired of it ive run of some guys that i really like. and i like my friend alot. and he told me that i was getting to close to fast and that ive only know him for two days and that im acting like weve been dating for years, im just really tired of it they all like me in the begining. buti want them to like me all the time. how can i stop this?
2006-12-20 15:58:08 · 5 answers · asked by valreemariecreed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are too emotionally needy. Maybe deep down you wonder if you are a lovable person so you are desperately seeking someone else to confirm that you are. What you need to do is learn to be secure and confident in yourself. It sounds cheesy but if you love yourself you won't be so desperate to get others to love you and you won't latch on to others so quickly. Focus on the things about yourself that you like and that you consider good qualities. Make a list if you need to and refer to it every time you start feeling insecure. When you are dating focus on making a true connection with the person instead of clinging on to them like a life raft. The true connection means taking things as they come, getting to know them and letting them get to know you without dumping everything on them at once or expecting love immediately. Let them set the pace. Let the relationship unfold and blossom slowly. If you feel impatient and feel yourself wanting to speed things along, take some deep breaths, refer to your list, work on your relationship with yourself, and reconnect with some old friends or family if you feel lonely. Do some volunteer work, go back to school, improve yourself in any way you can. That way you have something to bring to the table in a relationship and you won't look for a guy to fill a hole inside yourself.
2006-12-20 16:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by bellyyo62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it in your mind 24/7 that you're being clingy. Then you'll remember this when you're with him & think twice about trying to get too close too fast. Lay off for a while.. try just talking to a guy with not much flirting. Get to know the guy, be good friends with him. Then if he initiates anything, go with it. but do NOT DO NOT DO NOT think that if he makes a move you can just take the plunge & get going too fast again. Guys like their space. Let them have it. Clingy girls are very annoying.
2006-12-21 00:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by tiny.dancer07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking for the guy that wants it the same way you want it.
Dont try to change too fast it wont last.
Keep looking and be yourself.
Its a good thing to want to feel wanted, some guys long for that type of attention
2006-12-21 00:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by apup76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow someone who has the same problem as i do... holy crap.
wanna go out sometime?
email me
2006-12-21 00:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by bobom190 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
show them your middle finger
2006-12-21 00:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋