Myself and my ex, our relationship started off with a bang, then turned into a long distance relationship, and for 2 years we had to contend being apart more so than together. Wouldnt say it was a serious relationship, but we did have a lot of love and affection for each other. Just never got around to having 'the talk.' Things finally fizzled out due to us being at different points in our lives. We ended up talking afterwards to resolve a lot of personal, unresolved issues. A promise was made to go on with our lives, see other people, have new experiences and just grow. And we've been doing just that. But we still keep in regular contact and update each other on what's new. My question is, do you believe that given time and space, an old love can be rekindled? Chemistry, new found understanding of each other and on what we expect in a relationship and a growing frienship is still there, so is it possible? In my heart, i do wish that we could try again once more, when the time is right
2006-12-20 15:51:27 · 10 answers · asked by Mel h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well we have both stated from time to time, even while dating new people, that if we ever were in the same place, physically as well as mentally, there's always the possibility of giving it another shot. I thought he was kidding, but he said emphatically that he was very serious about that. The sparks are still there, they never really died down, just as i said we were at different places in our lives. I think we are both working on ourselves and on creating the life we want for ourselves first, before taking on the more serious challenge of a committed relationship. And it is because of that I always hold the hope that one day, if it is meant to be, we will find our way back to each other. But you're right. I'll take it slow with him and see where it heads from there.
2006-12-20 16:06:53 · update #1
Definitely so! I lost track of a love for almost 15 years and even though when we were reunited we were with other people, it was obvious there were still sparks there.
When the time is right, it will be too obvious for either of you to ignore.
Best wishes to you both. How about having a conversation soon? Spirit of the season and all......................
2006-12-20 15:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Yote' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i tried it after 13 years and it was too hard. I had dated a guy and then we ran into each other 13 years later and tried, although we wanted it to work there had been too much time gone by and we just couldnt do it, what we once had was lost and we thought it started back out as something and we wanted it to be but, all we got out of it was regrets from 13 years ago for us not making it work then, we couldnt do it now because it was too hard, you always feel that they cheated on you even though you were not together, so, although you may one day want it realistically its not going to happen. The best thing to do is move on and find someone new. No sense going back to what didnt work the first time, i found that out the hard way and only had to deal with losing a love with him twice instead of just once. That is even worse...
2006-12-20 23:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love sometimes is like a novelty,when the newness is gone,you lose enterest to each other.When will be the time is right for both of you? To rekindled that old love? ("The mind is strong but the body is weak") I 've read that two lovers should not be looking to each other eyes but looking at the path where they are heading together.That makes sense is'nt it? The strong foundation of relationship is you two have the same directions.
2006-12-21 00:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe its very possible.
I dated a guy for a couple months, we broke up because I was in AZ & he was in MN. Well a year later I ended up moving to MN & we got back together but he ended up having to move to SC for work. A year later, he's still in SC, but he asked me if I'd ever give him another chance (he was a jerk the 2nd time around) I told him if he proves that he won't treat me like that ever again. He's moving back in a few months & said he's going to do everything he can to prove to me.
Yes, I'm now a very strong believer.
2006-12-20 23:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by tiny.dancer07 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very possible. I feel in love with my husband over 15 years ago. But back then something came up I had to move. We both married other people and had children but we meet again 3 yrs ago and this past Aug. we got married. So, see it is possible.
2006-12-20 23:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by acestjohn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be a point where you could try it again .. sure... but just be aware that old issues could come in to play and you could end up in a yo-yo cycle.. if it is mutual that you both want to try again sure but take the time to get to know eachother again .. people change.
2006-12-20 23:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by lizzaddella77 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure it is possible esp if you live in the same time, and have matured, trouble is sometimes there is resentment about partners we have had in the mean time
2006-12-20 23:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i belive it can be.... but sometimes its just not meant to be, and you're just meant to be friends.... but that doesn't mean you cant try again!
2006-12-20 23:54:38 · answer #8 · answered by emblebeegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, go for it! but, take your time...
2006-12-20 23:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by surferchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea.
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2006-12-20 23:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by Hott Gymnast 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋