Do y'all think its possible to not pay attention to someone's past? Rather its them commiting a crime or being with multiple partners when they had a wild phrase? If they are doing well for themselves and have changed alot from the person they use to be. Can you except them for what they are now?
2006-12-20 15:49:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yep anything is possible especially if they really regret their past.
There are things I used to do that I don't do anymore because I had incentive such as my kids and what those I love think about me. I can accept others with a past because after all that's what they are doing with me.
2006-12-20 15:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends ho far removed they are from that person...
I did a lot of stuff when I was younger that I would never dream of doing today(I was a house DJ for 6 years in large clubs). I am faithfully married now, but at the time I could have virtually went home with a different girl every night at the club. Some nights I took the girls up on their offers, other nights I didn't...that was over 7 years ago now, I am a different person now than I was then....
People can change if they want to, and as they become more mature they find things that they found exciting often become boring...
2006-12-20 23:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by matter2003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a person with a past and I can tell you for sure I have changed. My ex-bf had a hard time dealing with it though. He was obsessed with it and it would always bother him and he would bring it up all the time. So it destroyed our r/ship. But the way I saw it he was blowing things way out of proportion. I was a different person when I did all those things. I was in a completely different state of mind and it took me doing those things and then dealing with the consequences to truly change. In the end I became a better person and would never go back to do those things again because I had already been through it and learned. He could never believe it though and could never trust me. Ironically though he had done a lot of bad things in his past too so he really had no right to judge me. But try to give the person the benefit of the doubt, watch their actions, see if they have changed, if they have, you can have confidence they have changed forever because once someone has gone through something and experienced hell because of it, they will never do it again. Everybody makes mistakes in the course of life, but what matters is if they learn from the mistakes and if they change and grow because of them. You can't expect anyone to be perfect or to have a flawless life. I'm sure even Mother Theresa has done some stuff she regrets. People do change. People mature, they learn, they improve themselves. If you can't get past it or get hung up on it, that is most likely something you need to work on in yourself. Work on your ability to forgive and trust people. Have faith in the good of people and learn to give people the benefit of the doubt.
2006-12-20 23:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by bellyyo62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they do not have a history of physical abuse, I can accept them for what they are now. Everyone has things they would do differently if given the chance. A wild phase may be healthy. Hopefully this person has sewn their oats and will be content and happy in a relationship. Good luck!
2006-12-20 23:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I havent come across anyone in my 36 years of living on this planet that doesnt have a past. If poeple didnt love others because of their past then there would be many lonely unloved people in the world. How old are you by the way?????
2006-12-21 00:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u love them then u have to accept them for who they are now and forget the past. People do change.
2006-12-20 23:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course, and you will understand her present based on her past so you could look clearer onto the future... just dont dwell too much on her pasts, it was her business, and if it was bad, then embrace it and move on coz what matters now is that youre together.
2006-12-20 23:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by vanie_mcbeal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you have no past? You must have to have gotten to a point where you can post questions on Yahoo. We all have pasts!
2006-12-20 23:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether or not they tried to hide it from you. If they are honest and open with you and they sincerely regret their misdeeds, that goes a long way.
2006-12-20 23:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man has a past and i love him more than anything in this whole world..so..of course!
2006-12-20 23:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by once_gothic_bytch 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋