I don't mean to flirt but I end up doing so and its getting me into serious trouble. Normally I don't even notice I've been flirting until a friends points it out or I think back on how I've been acting. I naturally have a very cheerful and flirty personality but this is starting to get out of control. Help!
2006-12-20 15:45:45 · 19 answers · asked by smile! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't just think of men as "sex on a stick"! I'm one of those people who tries to be nice to everyone and I think its backfiring on me now because its seen as flirting even when I don't mean it that way. I think you might have something on the self esteem/attention thing, I've always had really low self confidence and i love the attention i get but not the end results. Any ideas on how to
2006-12-20 17:53:28 · update #1
Flirting when you are seriously interested or attracted to someone is one thing, but you say you are flirting with EVERY guy you meet.
Usually that means you need attention, and you flirt as a way to get attention. Also, if you have low self esteem flirting with every guy you meet is a way to validate yourself, and it makes you feel attractive when they respond.
You just need more confidence and stop looking for attention and male validation.
2006-12-20 15:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥ Nikki ♥♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, considering you already know you have a problem with your behavior (promiscuous) in being 'overly-flirty' with guys, you need to really take that serious look at 'why' you act this way.
Are you in a relationship? Do you have relationship issues where you can't stay in a relationship for very long? Are you attracted to guys who are single, or taken? Maybe more guys who are taken? Where do you think this stems from? Your childhood? Did something happen to you as a child that may have affected how you act towards others? Do you ever have 'one-night-stands' with guys? Are you one of those girls who just like the attention a guy gives you when you flirt?
Ask yourself these questions, and you might find the answer within you....
Until then, wear a helmet, and body armor, if you come across a good-looking guy, WITH his girlfriend, and you choose to 'wink' at him, or be flirtatious with him, and his girlfriend is a giant muscle-bound woman with PMS the day you choose to do this.
Maybe what you need, is to get your *** kicked, really good, in order for you to see how your behavior has NOT benefited you, at all!!
Be careful - one day, you'll flirt with the wrong guy, and he'll be the 'psycho' that's been on America's Most Wanted, or who has a girlfriend who would not hesitate in taking a chunk out of you, because SHE has issues, too!!
2006-12-20 16:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by argamedius 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have got to be kidding, you know when you are flirting. All of us girls know when we are flirting. It is fun, and makes you feel good if the guy flirts back.
But to answer your question, you need to get a grip on yourself, when you find the right man to settle down with and be serious with maybe your flirting will stop but this will become a relationship breaker if you don't control it. This flirting will not only ruin your friendships but also your relationships.
Your girlfriends are going to want to hang out with you if you continue flirting, as they maybe afraid of you flirting with the guy that they really like and you flirting with him will piss them off.
Try to be more cheerful and not so flirty.
2006-12-20 15:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by SAM 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at anymore guys. Cover your eyes whenever you see one.
Realistically, that's just how you are. Go to a friend for a flirting intervention. Thatll be fun.
2006-12-20 15:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by PZ 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hey girl!! I am the same way. I am always laughing and smiling and I am a genuinely friendly girl..which I am sure you are too. Just continue to be your friendly self, just watch out for too much touching or continuous eye gazes or flirtatious conversation (innuendos, flirty talk, etc.) and don't worry about what others think! Just be yourself and have fun!! :)
2006-12-20 15:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You'd have to stop hanging out with guys and try to hang out with girls more. It also depends on what kind of problems you get into. Well, maintain distance with guys.
2006-12-20 15:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Choco 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
story of my life. hey, if the guy flirts back, then why not? i dont see anything wrong with it. all you have to do is just find yourself a real boyfriend and the flirting will end.
2006-12-20 15:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by M.O.B 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
when you meet a guy don't laugh at all their jokes and like touch their arm etc . don't text them , im them occasionally to chill just as friends witha big group just not you two.
2016-03-13 09:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think this.
if i keep this up, one day some man i do not know will call me on it. he will attack me in some alley or paring lot and i will not know why.
he will be thinking she is coming on to me and i want a little of that sweet little honey. he will try to give you a nice big--kiss or something more and you will think he is out of his mind.
all because you think you are being cute and sexy.
think twice little lady. some men are not what you think they are. they are strangers. with the emphasis on strange.
2006-12-20 15:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind that it could make u look 'cheap" and start trying to quit. Be cheerful but not over do it.
2006-12-20 15:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋