A guy at work (hold the dating coworkers lectures, please) says he's interested in me and that he wants to spend time with me, constantly compliments me, brings me little things (e.g. poinsettia for my desk, holiday treats), and makes it a point to stop and say 'hi' when he walks by my desk. however, he seems to prefer phone texting and IM'ing than calling me. Some of the im sessions have gotten pretty racy (fun!), but we've never kissed or anything in 'real life'. We've gone to coffee once during the day, but no date. This 'interest' has been going on since before Thanksgiving. Theories? Thoughts? Thanks! :-)
2006-12-20 15:35:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
forgot to note, when i call him, he doesn't answer and doesn't call me back. weird.
2006-12-20 15:37:57 · update #1
Again, please, no comments about dating coworkers--I'm aware of this. Thanks!
2006-12-20 15:40:36 · update #2
Its always easier to do that kind of stuff when you are not there with the other person. Its a little different when you are face to face...
I would just hint to him that he has to figure out what he wants to do and stop playing these silly games...
It sounds to me like he is really shy and feels awkward when talking to women. Its much easier for him to express himself from a distance thru emails and IM... If you are interested in the guy maybe you should do something that would signal it to him. Just keep in mind that most guys are not good at picking up women's signals, and this guy probably will be worse than most, based on what you are saying...its gotta be something obvious---like maybe asking him out to lunch/dinner/drinks or something like that
One expression that comes to mind in this situation is:
"Never dip your pen in the companies ink."
2006-12-20 15:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by matter2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 08:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were a "normal" guy and interested in a "real" relationship he should have asked you out on a date by now.
2006-12-20 15:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is so easy! the guy is shy, he can talk you up over im because he is hinding behind his computer, out of your sight. Then when he is around you he feels intimidated, shy and maybe nervous. The guy is definately crazy for you, all you have to do is be the aggressive one, he is waiting for your move.
2006-12-20 15:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by Economics Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just likes the flirting part.......and that he can do with IM and texting without getting into anything "real".
2006-12-20 15:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by alwayslarat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋