My boyfriend was my good friend for three years before we went out. He's not pushing sex on me, it's just i want to have sex with him, but i'm still kind of nervous. i hate the fact that i am though. i feel pretty comfortable with him, i just don't want to say that the reason i'm nervous is because of me. i don't know why and i need help to figure out what it is that i am nervous about and how to overcome it.
2006-12-20 14:58:27 · 17 answers · asked by asprinfree_braindamage_please 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you might be aspirin free but i could use one now
2006-12-20 15:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its because you were friends before? Im assuming this is your first time with him so maybe your worried about what he will think or how it will be? I wouldnt let it worry you...if your feeling like its the wrong time or wrong person dont do it. You cannot overcome feelings of doubt. Think about it more before you jump in. If hes a great guy and you love or care for him then it might work out and If your both relaxed and comfortable everything will be great and you should consider it. Make sure hes the right one, you dont want to regret any hasty desicions!
Good Luck (remember protection)!
2006-12-20 23:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that you are old enough, legally and emotionally, then the most important thing is to relax. The first time can be nerve-wracking. There is so much anxiety... to do well, to not screw up, to not look like you don't know what you are doing, etc.
An important first step that will ease a lot of tensions is to tell him that you are a little nervous. "A little nervous and a little excited" is not a bad phrase. This is a pivotal moment in your relationship. If he helps to put your fears at ease and proceeds slowly its a good sign of how he will treat your relationship in the future. If he gets angry or upset with your for your feelings, it does not speak well for your future together. Start with open and honest dialogue and you will be pleasantly surprised. Best of luck to you both.
2006-12-20 23:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by John N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think that your gut instinct is trying to tell you don't do it. I am 44 and i have been with many women. When it's right you will know it and you will not be nervous. Maybe your just not ready.
2006-12-20 23:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it doesnt feel right dont do it, especially if you are young, it should be with someone you are totally in love with and whom you really want to share a special moment especially if its your first time, trust you always remember your first I remember fondly, I have friends who do not... Its all instinct and how you feel.
And I am hoping you are a bit older and not very young...
2006-12-20 23:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by rottie110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about something else. You will be just a nervous then as you are now.
2006-12-20 23:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by TBAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till your wedding night. What's the rush? You have your whole life ahead of you, and if you're that nervous, the time isn't right, anyway.
2006-12-20 23:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is wt u need to have
candles
light meal
wine
warm place
pillow
bed
condoms <<<
how do u put this all together ?
that's u job. its good to be with some one u love
and its even better to have sex with him/her.
huge him touch him let him touch feel u and u feel him
let u r body melt between his arms
dive in his soul
let ur skin get used to his touch
let ur lips miss the warmth of his kiss
love babe love
2006-12-20 23:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by DB9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey your nervous because you know him so well that maybe your to cool with him maybe if you had sex with him it would fell like having sex with one of your friends
2006-12-20 23:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by Maddie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right, you'll know. You won't be nervous when you are truely ready.
2006-12-20 23:00:58 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just gotta jump right in. life is all about overcoming fears...and using protection.
2006-12-20 23:00:11 · answer #11 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋