My 6 year old son came home today and told me that someone in his class said that was no such thing as Santa and when he aasked me I didn't know if I should lie to him. I really didn't get a chance to say anything because my 5 year old jumped in and started arguing with him about it. What should I tell him if he asked me again?
2006-12-20 14:50:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I say keep the magic alive as long as you can. There are always little buggers that want to ruin it for other kids. What I told my son is that everyone has their own beliefs, and maybe Santa does not come to that kids house and that's why their parents help Santa out. But he does come to ours. Again, kids have to deal with the world soon enough, and I don't know about you but learning about Santa really bummed me out. Let a kid be a kid.
2006-12-20 14:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You continue to tell your child that Santa is real until your child figures it out. We all figured it out on our own at some time. Some kids figure it when they are as young as 7, other not until they are 10 or 12. Being a child and believing in Santa is a magical time for them. So don't ruin it for your child by telling him that Santa does not exist. He probably has his doubts now that his friend told him that, but in the back of his head he is probably ignoring it and thinks that Santa is real. It might make him sad if his own mom tells him that Santa is not real.
My parents never even said Santa didn't exist. They just stopped with the "From Santa" on the gifts when I was about 13 because it was obvious I knew by that age. One day your son will realize that it's just not possible for a human to travel around the world in one night pulled by reindeer lol!
- Hope this helps
- Merry Christmas!
2006-12-20 14:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Avoid a direct answer. 6 yo can't decypher between yes or no, and ''long winded answer''. Just tell him that your parents told you there was a santa, and that some children just don't beleive in him. There's nothing he can do about it, but that's how some children beleive. You can also try telling him that the other kids could be trying to be mean to him, and hurt his feelings. My 6 yo daughter still beleives, and I'm going to keep it that way for as long as I can. But probly not past the age of 11, at the VERY oldest! She keeps talking to my 2 yo about santa, so she helps him to believe.
You're not giving him a direct answer, but you're not lying to him either. It may not sound like the greatest thing to do, but at 6, you shouldn't have to worry about wether or not there's a santa. You should be worried about how many cookies are going to be eaten, how many presents you're going to get, and what time everyone is going to be up, so you can open them.
I agree with a previous answer. Find the story about the real santa clause. It will tell him about how he went around giving presents to kids.
2006-12-20 15:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The story of Santa Claus starts with Nicholas, who was born during the third century in Greece. His wealthy parents, died in an epidemic while Nicholas was still young. Obeying Jesus' words to "sell what you own and give the money to the poor," Nicholas used all of his inheritance to help the needy, the sick, and the suffering. He was made a Bishop when he was young. . Bishop Nicholas became known throughout the land for his generosity to the those in need, his love for children.
The anniversary of his death became a day of celebration, St. Nicholas Day. (Dec 25th)
Through the centuries many stories and legends have been told of St. Nicholas' life and deeds. These accounts help us understand his extraordinary character and why he is so beloved and revered as protector and helper of those in need.
All kids learn about Santa at differant times so keep it a secret til your little brother finds out and you can tell him the story.
2006-12-20 15:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply ask him what he thinks... Let him guide the conversation... If he still believes in Santa fine, if he doesn't let him in on the magical secret and allow him to help creat the magic for his younger sibling (fill stockings, put out the gifts, eat the cookies, etc.)
Most children want to believe the magic as long as possible and he may decide the child at school was wrong.. If not there is also fun in being the magician when you are no longer the audience...
2006-12-20 16:11:48 · answer #5 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he thinks that there is a santa and why he thinks that there really is a santa. He will most likely talk himself into believing that there really is a santa and the you can just agree with him. It's a little easier than out right lying to him. This is what I did with my 6 year old daughter.
2006-12-20 14:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I told my son, who is 15 now, that Santa Claus is the spirit of giving and that as long as people give in the world Santa will live eternal. My son STILL believes in Santa so do I (I'm 42) and my husband (he's 49). If you tell him this...you will not be lying:) I hope this helps:)
2006-12-20 14:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by cherokeemaydyn 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course there's a Santa! Goodness me, the ideas adults get into their heads. It makes me sad because sometimes they pass those ideas onto their kids...it's no wonder no one actually sees Santa anymore. Santa is so much more than just Santa, he's the embodiment of Christmas spirit, of the joy of being with friends and family. So, yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus.
2006-12-20 14:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by FairyPrincess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that Santa exists in the minds and hearts of people who believe in him. If your son believes, then Santa will be real. Those who do not believe are simply too unimaginative. As for those department-store Santas, say that they are Santa helpers sent to take down the orders of children. After all, Santa can't be aound this close to Christmas.
2006-12-20 14:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by Val 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anytime that came up when mine believed, I would direct the question in another direction instead of answering. I'd say something like "I bet THAT kid is going to get coal in his stocking for saying things like that!". Or I'll ask "what do you think?" and of course they'll convince themselves that the kid in class doesn't know what he's talking about!
I ended up telling my middle one (8 years) the truth and she still wanted to believe but I just couldn't keep it up any longer. My youngest is only 18 months so next year, we'll be starting the lie all over again.
2006-12-20 15:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by Georgia Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋