2006-12-20 14:39:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think thats a personal thing. Some people would rather get all the baby years over with as soon as possible. Others have kids, and as they get older they miss it, and have more.
Some people like to have the kids close in age so they will hopefully be closer when they are older, and others like big age differences so its more of a "protection" feeling over the younger ones.
Other people have no choice-- such as me! I have triplets. I love that they are best friends and always have one to play with. I also have a 1 year old and I think its a perfect age difference. The 3 yr olds are old enough to play with her nicely and not be too jealous, but are young enough to enjoy her and they will be able to play nicely in the next year or so I hope! It's all relative.
Good luck!
2006-12-20 14:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by eric 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no best answer to your question. It depends on your particular circumstances. I grew up "best friends" with the sister who is 20 months younger than I am, but as adults, I am closer to the sister who is 10 years older! Who knows?
With my own kids, there is a gap of nearly 6 years. It took about 4 years before my husband actually felt ready, financially and emotionally, for another child. And then it took quite a bit longer to conceive the second one than it did the first (who was conceived the first month I went off birth control.) As kids, the older (a boy) was the protector of his baby sister. She looked up to him and learned a lot from him, and he learned patience and responsibility. As young adults (20 and 26), they are close and talk often, and they are always there for each other.
I have also known many people who had kids at an "ideal" spacing of 2 or 3 years apart, but the kids' personalities were like oil and water, and they never got along.
So I would suggest that you space your children according to what works for you and your husband, because there is no way to guarantee that any spacing will be "ideal."
2006-12-20 15:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by sonomanona 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well i guess a good age is like 2-3 years difference but, my son is 6 he'll be 7 years old in June and i am Pregnant now, and due in January.... so there will be almost 7 years between my two...
2006-12-20 15:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by Romy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont really think their is a good age gap. Although i have 14 months between my two and its like my youngest has always been here i have not had any jealousy with my 2 year old at all. they are the best of friends and they entertain each other for ages.
2006-12-20 15:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by raadsgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about 2 to 3 years. that way the younger one can learn from the older and when they get old enough you can put them both out at the same time....lol. A lot of people say that it is not good to do that but when you want to get a child off of the bottle and off the diapers quickly there is no better way than to have a child that is around their age. They learn better from children their age.
2006-12-20 15:36:31 · answer #5 · answered by candy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first two are 11 1/2 month apart, I loved having them so close together because they have learned to share very well. Was hard having two in diapers at the same time, and two with bottles, but it really was not that bad. I loved every second of it.
The one I am having now will be almost 3 years behind my last one, and I am scared of that. I love having another baby, but 3 years behind? the poor thing is not going to have siblings home durring the day to play with when both his older siblings are in school. It will give us more one on one time, but with anything there are pros and cons. just depends on what you are wiling to deal with and with how soon god lets you get prego after the first.
2006-12-20 14:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In our house the 2 yr age seems best......we have a 4 1/2 yo a 2 1/2 yo and an 18mo old with one expected any day now
2006-12-20 14:52:39 · answer #7 · answered by laura468 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I have no kids myself but I I can tell you that when I was younger, I noticed that several of my friends who had siblings with a 2-3 year difference were pretty close. I am best friends with my sister who is 3 years older than I am.
2006-12-20 14:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by lunar lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have 3 boys who are 5 year apart (ages 19, 15, & 10) and we love it because they, all three, are like only children. We get to shop at two ends of the spectrum which keeps us in the children's department and the teens department, also the men's department for the oldest:). We love it that way:) My sister had hers 18 months apart, totally by accident, and it was really hard for her.
2006-12-20 15:03:26 · answer #9 · answered by cherokeemaydyn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anywhere from 2-5 years apart. At least make sure that the first/youngest is out of diapers first! Otherwise that's going to drive you into the poor house! LOL
We had our first, then right after she turned 3, we had our second. My son is almost 3, and I think we might be having another. Still to early to tell, but if we are, I'm going to have to work like crazy to get him out of diapers! Unless you have more then one at one time, you probly won't be able to afford diapers. Or if you have to pay on taxes lol.
2006-12-20 15:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by Pluto 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋