i'm a girl and i remember when i was little showering with my dad and my mom. you know what i remember? my dad washed my face with a big scrub of the wash cloth, just like my husband does with our son! I don't think there is anything wrong with bathing together. In fact, you are right, it is a bonding experience! Congrats, sounds like you are a great daddy!
2006-12-20 14:37:20
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answered by Robin 2
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My first response to your question at first glance was that it was perfectly acceptable. As I was typing however I kept wondering why you felt the need to ask this question. If it's because someone in your life like the mother or her family was concerned with this behavior and they are corcerned for the boys. I would just explain as you did here about the individual bonding time.
I don't know what area of the country you live in or other circumstances like daycare providers becoming aware of you showering with your sons or what have you.
Just know that our society has become one in which everyone thinks they know what's best for everyone else. It could become an issue if a teacher or social worker becomes involved in your life. Sometimes people project their own diseased minds on other peoples behavior.
I can only tell you that I am the mother of an 18 yr old daughter and we both have fond memories of bathing together when she was little. We had fun singing to her favorite kids tunes on her kids cassette player while we washed each others hair. I'm also certain there were times when my 2 sons took showers or baths with their dad when they were little because it was time saving. Neither of us questioned whether it was right or wrong because there was nothing dirty about it.
I would assume with being a single father of triplets saving time would be a major factor, right? So have fun as long as you know that nothing bad is happening.
3 yr old triplets? Good Luck!! Wishing you all the best!
2006-12-20 23:17:39
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answered by Anonymous
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I don't see a single thing wrong with it. Even if your triplets were girls I'd see no problem. I think the western culture has made the human body this sexual, taboo thing. I have two boys ages 6 & 3. Up until very recently I still showered with them on occasion. We often would shower together to save time. They needed baths and I was gonna take a shower and it was just easier if they jumped in with me. But I'm pregnant with boy number three and just prefer my own time and space. But both boys still take baths and showers with dad AND I still take them to the community bath houses now and then. We live in Japan and community bath houses are the norm. My boys think nothing of that fact that everyone around them is naked. It is a natural, normal thing.
2006-12-21 01:17:02
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answered by Amelia 5
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There isn't any thing wrong with taking showers with your boys. You are right, it is a great bonding experience. I remember taking showers with my dad, sisters,brothers,and my mother (didn't all take a bath/shower at once if that's what you're thinking). When I'd go to my dad's house and my sisters would be there me and my sisters would shower together. And when my sisters weren't there I'd shower with my dad. There isn't any thing wrong with that unless your a doing something you have no business doing which I know you won't. when your 3 boys feel that it's time to shower by themselves then let them. Until then enjoy your three little blessings and Merry Christmas and a happy New Year.
2006-12-21 00:05:35
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answered by BABY TZOPPORIAH 2
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Depending on how old they are, there's nothing wrong with it. When they start to get REALLY curious about what this or that is, that's when it's time to stop the showers. Or if they're past the age of 7.
When they reach that age, instead of taking showers, find something that they like, and do that with them instead. Some people will tell you that you should never be in the bath with your kids, but like you said, it's a bonding experience. Hell, my daughter is 6, and I take a bath with her every now and then, or she takes one with my sister in law. She knows what body parts are, but she doesn't understand what they're for. When she starts asking what they're for, then we'll put a stop to it, if not sooner.
There's nothing wrong with taking a shower with your boys, but make sure that they know they can't look, or touch. And make sure that they know how to wash themselves. Which can be difficult at first, but they'll get it eventually.
2006-12-20 22:50:14
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answered by Pluto 3
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I don't really see anything wrong with it.... I remember as a young girl I'd shower with my mom all the time. My son is 14 months, and I try to take him in the shower here and there just to see if he'll even like it... he doesn't really yet, so I sit him down and let the tub fill up with water so he can take a bath and I get out. But my husband will get in the bath tub with our son. Sometimes we wear bathing suits, other times we don't. There's nothing sexual about it, just teaching him how to clean- and for now he loves to play and splash. Now when he gets older, I won't be taking showers with him. My son rarely takes naps- and if so, not for very long, so it can be difficult for me to shower with him being so mobile, so if he needs to bathe too, I grab him too!
You sure do have your hands full! :) A triple blessing! lol That would be lot's of fun, but tiring too I bet! Happy Holidays!
2006-12-20 22:44:57
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answered by m930 5
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It's fine until they let you know it's not.
You should be able to tell. At a certain age (and not necessarily all at the same time), they will start wanting privacy and acting embarrassed when you or someone else sees them in the shower/taking a bath/on the toilet. When that happens, it's time to stop.
There's nothing wrong with a same-sex parent bathing/showering with a child who's still young enough to enjoy it. It IS wrong for a parent to bathe/shower with a child who does NOT enjoy it.
So just be vigilant for any signs of their developing modesty, and once they feel the need for privacy and independence, let them have it.
2006-12-20 23:09:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Whoever thinks it's wrong should have their heads examined. It's perfectly fine for young kids to shower with a parent and it does not matter what the gender is. Both my daughters liked to jump into the shower with daddy at 3.
2006-12-21 08:14:15
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answered by KathyS 7
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Nothing wrong with it at all. Perfectly healthy imo. And it is a good bonding period between parent and child. You are the same sex, so it's not like they will be seeing anything questionable. My ex husband used to take showers with my little girls until they were about 15 months. He'd get into the shower and then I would take her to him to clean her up while he was in there. I can still remember how sweet they looked. Nothing at all wrong with it :)
2006-12-20 22:38:40
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answered by lilmisstickletoo 3
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Since they're boys and they're only 3, I don't see anything wrong with it. People are always more suspicious of dads for some reason. I bet no one would see anything wrong with a woman bathing with her 3 year old daughter. I think it's great that you are trying to make time to bond individually with each of your kids.
2006-12-20 22:36:54
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answered by AshletD 2
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