Are all Christian moms so strict with theyr kids???

Question

My family very christian and i am too, i believe in God and Jesus and i pray alot. I am youngest girl in my family (12 year) my friends say youngest is supposed to be spoiled but i dont get spoiled at all ever, my mom and me used to get along so good but now shes always upset with me about things i do and i am getting in trouble all the time and many times since my birthday shes gotten mad enouigh to spank me hard i mean hard enough i cry!! She say it always is for my own good and because she love me and i know she does love me but still i dont like bein punished that way its like for lil kids and im older now!!! She say thing to like how Bible says to spare rod and spoil child and when im in trouble she needs to spank me to remind me be a better girl. Is that true??? I wish she could understand it not same anemore as when she was younger!! How can i talk to her about it????

Answer 1

I feel the same way! My mom is very Christian so am I. But I HATE how she never lets me do ANYTHING even REMOTELY wrong. I know that she is right, but uuuuuhhhhh!!!!!! You can email me or something and we can talk if you want.

Answer 2

What the hell is making her spank you at 12?!
Secondly, you are 12, you are NOT a toddler. She should give you a reason better than "because I love you!"

I have spanked kids to DISCIPLINE them, because they have done something wrong. I don't spank kids because I love them, I hug kids because I love them.

Talk to your mom, and work out changes that can be made for your relationship together; you are her daughter, not her paddle-board.

If your mother continues to spank you for every little thing you do, she is teaching you to fear and eventually loathe her, not love her. My father used to slap me, hit me, and punch me for minor things such as oversleeping, spilling water, forgetting to wash my hair, or staying on the computer too long. He once smashed my face into a brick wall because I was late to school one day, and he used that "spare the rod, spoil the child" line as an excuse to treat me like a punching bag.

I am not fully aware of what your life situation is... if you are being very rebellious, and she is naturally a controlling person, I can understand why she is doing it. I'm not saying it's a good thing, but I do understand what's going on; I'm a rebel at heart, and I have always resisted and walked down the hard road.

Learn from my mistakes, but do NOT just keep your head down and scurry off on your merry way; work things out with your mother. Talk to her, tell her how you are AFRAID of her, and that you are afraid to love her because of all the ridiculous spankings. Until you are 18, you'll have to walk her walk and talk her talk. Do what you can to make life easier until then.

Answer 3

There comes a point in a child's life where physical punishment (spanking) becomes ineffective and abusive. You have reached that age. You are grown (old) enough to say that you will not tolerate being hit anymore. Talk with your mother about your feelings. Tell her that she needs to come up with different techniques to discipline you, as that you feel spanking is now inappropriate do to your age and understanding. Have ideas that you feel would be better tools for discipline. (loss of certain privileges that you hold in high regard)

Answer 4

If you what to be treated as an adult you need to act like one. Getting into trouble can mean a lot of things. If you are behaving in a way not accepted by your Mom then she is punishing you to discourage that behavior. Spanking is being out of control. If you want her to listen to you maybe you can start by listening to her and both be in contol of the situation.

Answer 5

No!
Christian or non Christian, it is up to the parents to bring a child up in the right direction!
That is whats wrong with the kids of today, they have NO parenting, and these girls are getting pregnant at very young ages and have NO parenting skills, and there kids grow up to be hoodlums, as a parent I believe that it is MY duty to teach, protect, and watch out for MY children, because if I don't than WHO will.

The devil is rampant, he is looking to destroy the youth of today- why do you think so much bad stuff is going on in the schools, rap music that is so vulgar, kids wearing little to no clothes, and boys wearing their pants to their knees, showing their backsides... and using vulgar language as if it were just nothing at all, no respect and so on, so if you are lucky enough to have a caring parent, be happy for it.... cause most kids don't, and it shows.. just look around you.

Answer 6

You might start by asking her (when things are going really well) if you can talk with her. Then, when you get her alone, tell her you truly want to make things right between the two of you again and ask her to tell you exactly what she expects of you. Then, do your very best to do these things. You will not be perfect and neither will she but if you get some insight into what she wants, it will be easier for you to accomplish it and if she sees you are truly trying, it will help her to know you love her and want to please her.

Answer 7

Tia - you are experiencing a mixture of family history and of faith. What your mom is handing down from her own childhood is one part, what a disciple of Jesus has is a different part.
If your dad is around, ask him to call a family meeting. If you have older brothers and sisters, especially those who have moved out of the house, invite them if your dad can/t won/t.

Answer 8

tell her that time outs are better than spanking, because spanking is child abuse.

i don't really understand what you're saying, but the bible doesn't say to spank your children.

Answer 9

at that age i started withholding phone or tv from my kids...you might suggest that..

Answer 10

Learn to use punctuation.