My daughter, in college, was caught drinking and driving on her university campus. She lives off campus and really needs her car for transportation. What should be her just punishment?
2006-12-20 14:25:28 · 22 answers · asked by barryinindy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Replaced it with a bicycle for 1 week.
2006-12-20 14:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by electricgold2002 5 · 15⤊ 2⤋
If the courts took legal action, then that's her punishment. It's what society would feel was the just penalty for drinking and driving.
If you feel that it is not enough; make her pay for everything to do with the car. Petrol, maintenance, INSURANCE.
The insurance must've gone up since she was caught, make her pay the full amount from now on. This in escence will teach her that she literally has to pay for the misguided actions; and should teach her some responsibility. If she cannot afford to pay for the use of the car, then she cannot have it...you have to put your foot down. After all, it is your daughers life at stake.
As an added bonus, you get an extra $2000 a year...maybe buy her a new computer next year IF she's good with the car.
2006-12-20 14:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by rishi_is_awake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she lived close enough to take a bus then yeah take it away. But personally I live 30 minutes from school and there's no bus line that runs anywhere near our house. I drive to the free parking and then take a bus from there to campus. Takes about an hour total to get there. I have no clue how I'd get there without a car. You shouldn't endanger her schoolwork with the punishment.
2006-12-20 16:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that was mean. If it means that taking her car makes her realize how serious this issue is, then u have to do it.
What if she killed herself, or someones kid, mom, etc. Then not only would she be dealing with the legal problems, but emotional as well. And as for her living off campus, well there are bus systems, and car pools. Better she learn her lesson this way, then killing someone. Not to sound harsh, but that's the reality. Better she learn her lesson early. (And yes, I'm a Mom too, and I would do the same).
2006-12-20 14:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking the car away from her may result in mother-daughter fight. Forewarn her that should she be caught doing the same thing, e.g. drinking and driving on her university cumpus, the car will be removed from her. I'm sure she doesn't want that to happen thus will not repeat the mistakes. Everyone deserves a second chance.
2006-12-20 14:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from one barry to another, and having kids, if she was still able to keep her license to drive in that state, i would personally, and with her, show her a slide show of what the detriments of driving and drinking causes. kids now day's (i sound like my parents now) seem that they are untouchable, have you ever seen the games that they play? not much more than kill or be killed, or racing against the man (police) . o.k. as far as the punishment???? plea to the court that you will see that she go
work in the closest E.R. on a volonteer basis, and not on the good hours (12:00pm- 6:00pm, pretty slow), any hours between those times can be, let's just say, evientful. this would show her that that the action that she my take can cause the effect that she will see. life, oh life....... i hope she will choose life.
all my best for you and youre's for the holidays and beyond.
2006-12-20 15:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by barrbou214 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was caught for DUI than, the authorities should have given her the proper legal punishment.
As for the parenting aspect, she is in college therefore, must own up to her mistakes (she's a grown up now).
Let her keep the car, as long as she can legally drive it.
If you take it away, chances are, she will just find another car to borrow until she gets hers back or maybe even steal it back from you. (Remember she was DUI...shes acting recklessly!)
Personally, Id rather have her wreck her own car than someone else's and I seriously doubt she would willingly take the bus..
2006-12-20 14:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she needs to know that what she did was wrong and that she could of been seriously hurt or even killed or seriously hurt or killed someone else. I understand that she needs the car to get back and forth to the campus, but she should of been more responsible. I would check into public transportation and make her use it until she realizes what she has done?
2006-12-20 14:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. D. AKA Evil Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked my daughter, who is also of driving age, what you should do and she agreed that taking away the car is the best thing. It is so hard to be a parent and make these kinds of tough decisions because we imagine how much it will suck for our kids when they have to deal with things that will inevitably be difficult for them. I too would struggle with taking the car away because the mom in me would worry how she was going to get to and from places. If your daughter is remorseful and you have trust in her then don't take it away, but otherwise having a taste of life without this luxury may have a lasting impact in a positive way! Good luck!
2006-12-20 15:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is an adult if she is 18 and over.
Her punnishment should be by law.
If her car is owned by her, you can not legally take it.
If you own the car and she is just using it, then I would give her a month's Public Bus Transportation Pass.
Able to use your car again, she has to go through AA meetings and drunk driving courses.
2006-12-20 15:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs to move back on campus to deal with her transportatin issue? Is she under 21? If so, I'm surprised she still has a license. You might want to make sure she does, especially if the car is in your name.
2006-12-20 14:35:03 · answer #11 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋