how do i change my attitude?

Question

I think, I have some problem with my attitude. I fell like I think negatively.
I think negatively, this may be because of my past experience. I tried several times to change the way I think. But always I filed. But this time I want to change my self. How can I do that.

One more thing, I want to get a feedback from my friends about my behavior. How do i do that? Is it a good Idea. Only thing I want to become a good person.

Answer 1

Constructive criticism can be good, only if you're willing to take it. Changing your thinking changes your attitude, which in turn changes your behavior.

Answer 2

Hi,
There is right and wrong, there is good and bad, we have choices, and we also have a brain, so when something comes up ask yourself why you chose the negative, do you see positives in people you meet? if not, would you want to be viewed the wrong way?

if you are negative remember that others get vibrations from you and you send signals and this can and will affect you in home life and also the outside world. You want to be happy and enjoy life, this is the only life you will ever have, why not make the most of it and "be happy" smile and give everything the benefit of a doubt,

You also have the ability to share good and positive feelings and ideas with others that need this and are much worse off than you.

all the best to you, take care and be safe..

~~~ Just me ~~~

Answer 3

Changing your attitude takes a lot of HARD WORK. I am a recovering alcoholic, and you have to change your attitude about drinking in order to quit. The 12-Step program helped me, but also the bible.
It depends on why you want to change your attitude. If you are more negative then positive, then do you have positive things in your life? Are you grateful for what you do have in life? We all have things we can be grateful for in our life. It may not be what we want in our life, but it might be all we can have at this time for what ever reason. But, we probably have more then what others may have. I know you have a computer, or access to one, (some don't), I know you probably have a roof over your head, maybe not what you want, but you have something; I know you have food, maybe not what you want, buy you have food; you have air to breathe; you have the sun when it is out; all the seasons; and you have the ability to express your thoughts, which some really don't have! (they are non-verbal) You have the ability to spell and write, as shown by your question, even the ability to ask the question, and the ability to get better and be a good person. If you are wanting to be a good person, because you are asking, you probably already are!
Attitude is what we fill our minds with! If we fill our minds with negative stuff from the TV, violence, death, bad music, then we can easily become negative. IF the music is all that stuff young kids listen to these days, most of that is about sex, violence, hate, death, and blood! That is all negative. Try changing your TV shows, find something to laugh at! Like the comedy channel! Also, do some journalling, and think about your life as a whole, and try to figure out where this negative attitude came when you were younger, and now, and what you plan on doing about it! Go to Alanon, and they will help you to change yourself. We don't change the addicts/alcoholis in our lives, we change the way we react and think about them. Not saying you have any of these problems in your life, but even if you don't, these programs don't hurt! Use the program! Go to the LIbrary and read and read and read and read ! The Bible tells us to "think enough about ourselves to be sane" and "to love our neighbors as we do ourselves" and to "be peaceable among all men as far as it is up to you".

Answer 4

I read a book over ten years ago and it was called 'How to find yourself and a new job'. One of the exercise was to ask three people that are not related to you to write down three words that would describe you as a person, and why. At the time I was a supervisor for ten people. I told them that I was working on improving myself, and I wanted gut level statements. Do not put their names on the paper, and type it so I would not know who wrote what. By the end of the day I had twenty envelopes on my desk. My heart when to my stomach; was I that bad!! I told them if I did not come to work the next day they would know why. I could not wait until I got home to read their comments. Because I was thinking negative about myself, I thoughts that all of their comments would be negative. What a surprise--all of the comments were very positive. They said that I had a special relationship with God; my math abilities were out of this world; my personality made them feel special, and I did not put them down like some of the other supervisor. I am very proud to say that I believe that what you send into the lives of other will come back to you in triples.

Answer 5

I think what you're doing is great-you're facing up to some hard truths and wanting to do something about it...that takes a ton of courage.

When I feel negative, I try and look at the situation from another perspective or the other persons point of view..I also picture Stop signs when certain negative thoughts come to mind. I force my thoughts to change and I found that works for me.

Just ask for feedback after a month of so...ask the one you're closest to. And again, what you're doing is great.

Answer 6

Talk to your friends that you really trust, with whom you have some depth in the relationship. You could ask them to not discuss it with others, &, if they are your friends, they won't. Take one baby step at a time to make it easier. Have a friend be your check in person; be honest with him/her about how you did on a given day. Your friend won't judge, just give you feedback. Tell your friend how you think that you are doing, & find out if your friend agrees. Your friend will be your support system. Work on one idea at a time. A step in changing is even to just be aware of your behaviour; after that, start to change it. You can do this. Be patient with your progress. You are worth it. Trust God to help you.

Answer 7

how to get feedback? Open your mouth and ask these friends. It seems you wish to change and the best start is to just plain ask and then accept what is said. If you have an attitude problem then it is up to you to change it and that means each and every time you are tempted to open your mouth with a nasty comment or idea then clamp it shut and think it over until the urge passes. You need to reteach yourself on manners and feelings.
Tell your friends what you are attempt to do and ask for their help.
Be ready to hear some bad things about yourself.
learn manners...look for places that teach them too. Start with please and thank you.
Good luck.

Answer 8

Try reading "Excuse me your life is waiting for you" The book is about changing your attitude and feeling positive. She is pretty out there, but it definitely works. I would take some of the things she says with a grain of salt, but its full of ideas and you will feel better in a few days.

Its a very light read as well.

Answer 9

Know that God loves you and you are precious to Him. He gives you the gift of Eternal Life in Jesus Christ. And you are a son of God with fantastic and glorious future in Heaven. Believe it and act like it.

Answer 10

well, you have to be persistant, which is bad if your a negative thinker, so maybe set a goal for yourself (such as being a better person) and push your self to it.

as for friends and family, just tell them. if they love you, there bound to help.