I'm so pissed about this god damb relationship I had in high school. It's been four years now and I still can't help thinking back about the unsuccessful relationship and how distraught I am about how the girl treated me. I need to get over this and want to badly but having a hard time. I know this isn't doing me any good. Any advice on trying to not let the angry past from hunting me?
2006-12-20 14:18:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
To move on you need to be able to forgive the other person, no matter how awful they were. You do not need to forget, just forgive. This releases you from most of the anger and bitterness.
2006-12-20 14:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok all these people talking about talking to that person, and forgiving and such... dear lord, 4 years, she probably hasn't thought about you for the past 3..... go date another girl man.. for god's sakes!! Get some strange (some "new" stuff) and forget all about it. We all have bad relationships, it's a part of life. But man you can't go wasting that much time thinking about it. what's done is done and nothing you say, think about or do will EVER change it... so forget her, if she screwed you up that bad, then she's not worthy, move on and find a girl who is. There's plenty out there trust me! One of the most fun parts of dating is the chase, get out there and chase some
2006-12-20 14:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by Wsdm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude. I have had many relationships where the girls
a) cheated
b) stole
c) deceived
d) spent bill money and hid the red bills (and then left town and I was stung big time)
e) all of the above.
at various times in my life, and they were relationships of over a year, one was 5 years. from experience, I say that I have more to be angry about. but I am not, for I learned, and the best one was that there are plenty more fish that lie, steal, cheat out there, and there are beautiful sweet fish, that will love you as you love them. I am 35, and have had too many girls, most ended in disaster, some my fault, others theirs. but sh!t happens, and it most often happens to good people.
dude, from an old bull to a young one... you are worth more than self pity. people do sh!t for what ever hell reason, and sometimes a nice guy (or girl) gets in the way. you MUST move on, or you will be bound to fail in any relationship. sh!t happens to good people most of all. peace bro.
2006-12-20 14:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each time you start thinking about this tell yourself
"stop it" I know it sounds stupid but pretty soon you will stop it.
Do Not Dwell On It! She has probably forgotten all about it and you are the one causing for yourself the problems are not hers. You were both children at that time and you need to get on with your life just as she has done.
Why do you want to kling to something like this? Sounds a bit like you enjoy the drama.
As my dad always said....dont sweat the small stuff...and this is small stuff. You have the rest of your life to get through and you are hanging onto a moment of the past. Look to the future and laugh about the past.
2006-12-20 14:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by spider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way pass this is to go through it, with the help of a good counselor. The reason it is too much for you on your own is that it triggers deeper issues that are tied to it.
Finding a competent counselor and being tired of living out of the past- best recipe ever for freeing yourself from this constant draw on the soul and daily life.
It was one of the best things I ever did!
Do this and you will look back on it as one of the best things you've ever done for yourself.
Also, you will appreciate the huge difference in going through a healing time of pain vs. going through a constant pain that just keeps holding you down and hurting you more.
Best wishes for a good start to moving beyond this, sounds like you are ready!
2006-12-20 14:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by gettin'real 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, I dated a real jackhole in hgih school and I swear it took me years to get over my anger...the best thing to do is a deep exploration of why you're mad, even writing things down.
Sometimes writing a letter to that person, and not sending it helps too.
2006-12-20 14:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This will sound impossible to do perhaps but think about it. Write the girl a letter- don't mail it-& pour your heart out. Then forgive her. It's very difficult but I did this in a similar situation & I no longer allow it to bother me. You'll feel better immediately.
2006-12-20 14:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by pitt49us 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a minimum of your unlike my spouse. She had an affair resembling yours in basic terms she knew the guy replaced into married. in actuality he replaced into already on spouse #3 with young ones from each marriage. To precise that off she did no longer end her touch with the sob when I entered the photograph, she maintained a "friendship" with him. She ended up arranging for the three human beings to have dinner together on numerous activities, even invited him to our wedding ceremony...he got here together with his spouse!!! I discovered the actuality approximately them 10 years into our dating and that they've been nevertheless "pals". in actuality I checked her digital mail till now I confronted her and in an digital mail that she had presently sent she instructed him she ignored him. Do you think of I would desire to go after the sob? tell his spouse?
2016-12-15 05:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forget. God can forgive all our sins, and He expect us to forgive others too. God to church to learn God's way of living a peaceful an meaningful life.
2006-12-20 14:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by tmthyh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away or get over it, and accept you cant change anything.What's done is done, may it rest in peace...
You can not move forward, if you hold on to the past.
2006-12-20 14:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋