I have just broken up with my boyfriend about a month ago because our relationship started to fade away. (we slowly stopped talking, hanging out, ect) And I still like him a lot, and my friend knows I still do, and she flirts with him, and I think he likes her. I can't seem to deal, and I can't seem to let go. And since the breakup, he's been really distant from me. I don't know whether I should tell him I still like him or not. I don't know what to do, or to say. Any advice on what to do?
2006-12-20 14:16:09 · 8 answers · asked by Hunter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way. if your friend is after him then let her know you don't like it and if she is a true friend, she will let him go.
2006-12-20 14:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by LW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunter, relationships are tricky. The first and most important one we can have is with ourselves. So I ask if your relationship with yourself is comfortable. Are you your own best friend? Do you accept yourself as you are, non-critical and with love and honor? Do you honor yourself by the choices you make? Now look at your ex. It sounds to me (and to you) that you two were drifting apart. That's okay. Happens all the time. There are more guys, and more gals out there. If this one disappears, another six or a dozen will come along to take his place. You can ask yourself these questions by playing out in your mind different answers. If you were to make another play for him, what would happen, how would it work? What if someone else comes along soon...are you willing to wait? Do a little internal exploring and remember, honor yourself with how you treat yourself.
2006-12-20 14:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called jealousy and we all get over it. Sometimes things fade away for a reason,and you should just let it be,besides there is a world of new things to discover and with new people. Be fair to yourself and open up to new opportunities.
Don't be upset with your friend,you should have an open policy, I know with my bestfriend,though we'd never date each other dated before,we've always been open to the fact,if either of us fell for one's ex,we'd be open to their relationship. Don't take it to hard.
2006-12-20 14:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth , but dont sound desperate when u do, talk to him about ur feelings, and talk ur friend about it,it sounds more like ur friend is trying to make u jealous!!!
2006-12-20 14:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by Shay. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ok heres the thing go up to him and jus say hey i knoe we broke up and everything and it might not mean anything to u ne more but cant we at least be friends?and i jus wanted to tell u that i still do have feelings for you and it makes me feel uncomfortable seeing you flirt with my bestfriend."or like something like that cause i told my freind to do something like this and she started to be friends with the guy and like 2 weeks later they were bak together.well i hope it works!good luck!merry x-mas =)
2006-12-20 14:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the fact that ur friend likes him is keeping you going. shes probably saying what a nice and sweet guy he is, and how shes DROOLING over him.. then ur prolly thinking oh yeah.. i remember that and just want it all to come back. it kinda sucks... tell her how u feel about it.. but u NEED to move on
2006-12-20 14:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by Riah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him.
2006-12-20 14:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by Niceguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your friend is just a rebound. =X ... tell him how you feel! never hide your feelings when you have a chance to express them. or maybe perhaps its all jealousy...it its that......you'll get over it eventually! =)
2006-12-20 14:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by HEXE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋