The preacher was being arrogant to me while I was pregnant and even worse now that Danity is born. When we come he stares straight at me and then at Danity as if we are trash. He keeps trying to get my to pray for forgiveness and council me but I do not believe that I have done anything wrong.
2006-12-20 14:06:16 · 13 answers · asked by 13 year old girl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Whatever you do--don't let this affect your relationship w/ the Lord. Stay rock solid w/ the Rock. I am sorry the preacher is treating you this way. I know how you feel. When I was young some horrible things happened to me while I was attending a church and the preacher's critisms made it back around to me. I made the worst mistake of all...instead of pressing in to God, I left the church and God. (And as a consequence got into more troubles.)
PTL in later years I was restored and had a renewal of my faith.
Sweetheart, people will always hurt us. Humans make mistakes. Make Jesus your all in all. He alone is perfect and will NEVER let us down. You have to stay rock solid w/ Him. Your baby DEPENDS on the power of a praying Momma.
Also, adopt an attitude of forgiveness towards the preacher treating you this way and all others. Forgiveness is an act of faith not a feeling and it is a bridge we all must cross someday. Lead by example for your baby.
Hold your head up, Sister.
God Bless our little Sister and hold her tight. Lead her step by step in the way that she should go. I thank you that her steps are ordered by YOU Most High.
Amen.
2006-12-20 14:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by motherbear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know your situation in why this preacher is doing this but remember his convictions and also he should recognize how you feel. If he was being arrogant and rude this is NOT acceptable. If he calls himself a man of God and is doing Gods work we must do it with grace. Again I don't know you or him so I would evaluate the situation and go from there. There is always a different church or simple communication goes miles.
2006-12-20 14:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by Labatt113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>> I do not believe that I have done anything wrong.
You used the wrong word. "Counsel" is to give advice and comfort. "Council" is a group, like the Security Council at the United Nations.
Unless you have a huge trust fund, you are putting a burden on your parents or the welfare system. Your child is going to grow up without a true father, so you condemned him/her to an unhappy life. You are setting a bad example for young girls.
All in all it sounds like you did several things wrong.
You didn't have an abortion and you go to church, so you are doing other things right.
Your minister lets you attend, so he thinks there is hope for you.
Some states have a five-year limit on welfare. Some states are contemplating one. If your state puts one in, when you are 18 you will have to earn a living for yourself and your child. Unless you are studying for some career right now, at 18 you'll be hooking or dealing drugs.
2006-12-22 05:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are your own person, and must choose your own path. If you truly believe then you must look past the judgement of others. From what I can grasp from your question, you have already taken responsibility for your own actions in regards to the creation of the child. This in itself is wisdom, and should not be shunned by anyone. The life of your child is precious, and the fact you have taken on this responsibility is enough.
People are imperfect, even a preacher.
Find it within yourself to forgive the preacher. Be honest, and tell him/her that you have accepted the responsibilty for your actions. Then tell him/her it is your bond with your child (and God) that is your focus in life.
Forgiveness is not in the prayers we say, or in what we preach...but in the actions we take, and how we deal with our actions and responsibilties.
You seem to be on the right track. Don't let yourself be sidetracked. Be good and loving to your child, and your reward we be self evident. I wish you well.
2006-12-20 14:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accourding to God's Word and Will you have done something wrong... for that matter every one else has too... If you are going to church and do not know that you have not been properly instructed... and clearly you have not come to God in The way He prescribes... If you had you would know that while you may be forgiven and you can still have a close relationship with God you must recognise and repent... No one should be "looking down" on you if you are trying to do what God requires...If you are going to church and still demanding to be accepted but are not accepting God's Word and striving to do what God wants...why are you there?... you have made a hard life for yourself... God can help if you come to Him as He prescribes...
perhaps you need to open yourself to help and you might see others are not "looking down " unless you have put yourself in a position to be looked down on by acting badly against those who would help you..
If you are honestly seeking god and His help and not finding help where you are going seek him in another congrigation... even at your age you need the help of God's people... there are many out there who will help you find your way to God if you seek them out.
feel free to email me if you have a question on the God stuff.
2006-12-20 14:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by idahomike2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the sounds of that it doesn't sound so good, i don't imagine Jesus would give you dirty looks, Who knows what your talking about but that's between you and God so God can show you anything you may have done wrong or not. He can give you his advice etc, that's what a pastor does, like a teacher, but when it comes to it, it's you and God because the pastor is not God. Sometimes people in the church can be the worst like that even though that's not how it's suppose to be
2006-12-20 15:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you unwed? What would reason a preacher to unmarried you out in this kind? Yipes, how unkind, no matter when you're unwed. the actual incontrovertible truth that you're there with your toddler might want to enable that preacher understand you want to seek truth. He should be welcoming you with open hands and your priceless toddler. i replaced into pregnant out of wedlock and that i married the guy who replaced into the daddy and now we are married for 10 years and characteristic a 2d toddler and if all of us dealt with me undesirable because of that truth, i'd steer sparkling of them. you've sufficient on your plate with raising that kid up good than ought to characteristic for your burden with the help of dumping their condemnation on you. locate yet another church sweety.
2016-12-01 00:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praise the Lord, you had your child!!!! If I were there, I'd go with you to church!!! You must forgive the Preacher, and rise above all this. You will be the Victor!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-20 14:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by mortician 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. Try visiting a few churches to get an idea of what you may enjoy and what they have to offer.
2006-12-20 14:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, biblically you sinned if you had sex out of wedlock (fornication), but it is not for that preacher to judge you. You should either stop going there, or tell him that you have you own personal relationship with Jesus and you know your sins have been forgiven and to stop grilling you.
2006-12-20 14:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by keepingGodfirst 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋