Could I borrow a second of your time to ask a question?

Question

Now before you answer the question, let me provide some examples, so I can better attempt to ask my question.

If no one trusted their lover, would the chances of couples being tested for STDs go up? If no one trusted their lover, would the number of couples that always used condoms go up? If no one trusted their lover, would people find out sooner that their lover was cheating on them? If no one trusted their lover, would (I am assuming mostly women based on some statisticsI read) people have less of a chance to marry someone just so they can get divorced and take half?

Another example, er story. My friends dad has just filed for divorce after his wife cheated on him, and they were married for 20? years, now he has had to sell his house, car, jeep, and more but what really broke him, was he was forced to sell his Harley. He doesn't have a lot of money anymore.

So I ask the QUESTION once more would the (love) life's of everyone benefit from global distrust?

Sorry I did not finish this statement...

Another example, er story. My friends dad has just filed for divorce after his wife cheated on him, and they were married for 20? years, now he has had to sell his house, car, jeep, and more but what really broke him, was he was forced to sell his Harley. He doesn't have a lot of money anymore. Do you think this would have happened if he would not have trusted his wife from the start?

Answer 1

First of all you are buried in questions--and so just to find a start point here and maybe simplify what I am going to TRY and say is this--NO TRUST NO GO---Why start any relationship where there is a trust issue pending???? Lets try and make this more than just relations--like taking your car to a guy who really cant fix them--would you?? Or go to a Dr. that has malpractice suits pending--No I dont think so---So if you know that there is a chance for STD' s or cheating you just wouldnt go there---Period----As for your friend devorcing after 20 YEARS well --did his wife cheat on him because he was too buisy playing with all his MANLEY toys and not pay her any mind?? I mean did they have any communication at all?? If so you would think that after 20 years he would have picked up on the fact that she was in need of some sort of attention--and he wasnt fitting the bill---I dont condone cheating --I think you need to finish one book before starting another--but sometimes others use it as a wake-up call and it back fires--that for so long they have been neglected and find out there are other's out there that find them interesting and want to be involved--and thats that
Now the REAL ?? QUESTION??? What we need to do is start being honest to the ones we say we love and commit to --Then there would be global benifit--if there is such a thing--like trusting the nations right off our borders--and across the oceans --
After all that I havent a clue as to if I even touched the very grounds of the question you were asking --so --good luck

Answer 2

Based on your specific case of your friend's father, the answer would be YES. But global distrust, that is way too extreme dude. The problem here is that we cannot predict the future, how would you know if this person would cheat on you IN THE FUTURE?? If we could predict the future, there would not be any beggers in the street! Some may ask, why is this happening to me? I have done good all my life, yet, I am deprived of life now! Since when has the world been fair? We are dealing with people here, and not machines. If I bought my wife roses today, she might give me a wam smile, that's it. But tomorrow if I did the same thing, the response I get will definitelty be different, got my point?
To answer your main question, No, there would be chaos in the world if there was global distrust. Business transactions will be never be closed, building not built, jobs not taken up in fear of not getting paid, and the list goes on. We would have to live as individuals, this is even worse than being in pre-historic times!

Answer 3

If you don't trust someone why in the world would you marry them to begin with....and without trust there is no relationships...marriages end for all sorts of reasons not just becuase someone is cheating...Being married for 20 years, they had to have trusted eachother. I know a lot of people do cheat on their spouses and that is because some times the flame has died or the person cheating thinks the grass is greener on the other side until they jump the fence and scrape their knees. If no one trusted their lover there would still be STD'S and their would still be less people using condoms. How do you think people get pregnant or aids or and std for sleeping with someone one or two times and not being in a relationship with that person?? Another thing is when you marry someone you aren't in it for money the majority of the time. Half the time in a divorce things are sold because accumulated debts have to be paid, or the judge orders that they half everything which means you have to sell to bring peace. What does him selling everything have to do with him not having anymore money?? Are you saying just because he owned all of this he was rich?? I divorce my ex-husband 4 years ago and I paid all of our debts, and let him take whatever he wanted, because material things aren't worth fighting for, you can lose it all and bring yourself to a better place and have more then you had while you were in that relationship!!

Answer 4

I would have to say No. Not having trust in somebody you love does nothing but cause problems later on. I feel that it causes stress in a relationship, couples will be constantly interigating each other...etc. Also, I believe that a relationships "tone" from the beginning will last throughout the end of a relationship...In other words, if in the beg of a relationship there wasnt much of any trust then that will prob continue and linger throughout the relationship. I think they couples should just learn to trust each other and stay faithful. if there werent so many cheating couples out there then we wouldnt have such a problem. i believe that tv has only helped damage this image of "happily ever after". But thats just my opinion!

Answer 5

I think the answer is not distrusting everyone, but being VERY careful in whom you place your trust. I am suspicious by nature, and it takes a lot for me to believe in someone. Once they have my trust, it is because they have earned it.
I don't think we should automatically suspect everyone, but....
best to always be on your guard. There are very few people in the world with whom you KNOW you can really be safe. Keep that in mind, limit your circle of trust.

Answer 6

Ummm . . . well you kinda need to make sure that you marry the right person. The wrong woman can ruin a man's life and everything he's worked for without any remorse. The right one can make a man very happy and be there to support him when he's in need. Distrust would certainly solve some of these problems, but who wants to live a life like that? Good night!

Answer 7

People are people and are not perfect and can't be expected to be perfect. Look at the positive side; they had 20 (may be close to)wonderful years. Don't get bogged down in the negatives; you will make your life miserable. Move on to the next phase of life.

Answer 8

People sometimes force themselves to trust other people because the feeling of mistrust is more painful. A lot of us know that we shouldn't trust someone but we talk ourselves into giving them the benefit of the doubt. In other words.. it's a mute point.

Now can I have my second back?

Answer 9

Your 1 second of time expired after the first sentence. If you or anyone else Do Not Trust each other or anything, then you do not need to be together. (that was a real 1second) my answer. See how easy that was, you could have done it too.

Answer 10

I for one would rather risk getting hurt emotionally or financially than to live my life in doubt and worry. What kind of life would it be to always be suspicious and to have to double check every move your partner made. To always be looking for the knife coming towards your back is no life at all.