How do I tell my parents that I started cutting again?

Question

I have been cutting on and off for 4 years and I'am ready to get help I don't want to have this problem for the rest of my life. But I have no clue how to tell my parents that even started again? My parents think I'am crazy for even doing it in the first place, I guess I'am crazy. But i don't know how to tell any advice?

Answer 1

You're not crazy. You're hurting on the inside and letting it come out by hurting yourself on the outside. If your parents already knew about it once it at least won't be a totally new shock to them.

Find a time when things seem pretty calm and you have their attention. Then just tell them, and tell them you want help. But also tell them what kind of help you want. Otherwise they may go off and running in a direction to get you help that you don't want them to go.

I strongly recommend therapy, because it helps bring the inside pain out in a healthier way, and they can also help you find ways to stop cutting.

I think it's wonderful that you came to the decision to get help. Keep going in that direction and you'll be just fine.

Answer 2

No, you aren't crazy. Cutting is done to relieve emotional pain, and it isn't crazy to be in pain especially when you're going through adolescence (which they now say lasts in to the early 20s). You should be getting counseling for the emotional pain. Tell them you've been really depressed and would like to talk to a counselor. Tell the same thing to a teacher you trust, and to the school counselor if you trust that person. You don't have to reveal that you're cutting again unless nobody takes you seriously...then it's time to play hardball. Until then, your goal is to see a psychologist or psychiatrist. THAT is the person to talk to about the cutting if you hesitate to speak to your parents about it. You can tell that person and it may never get back to your parents. The therapist will tell your parents what course of action should be followed. If it's necessary to tell your parents, the therapist should coach you through it.

This is something a parent doesn't know how to deal with, and you admit you don't understand it either. Time to call in the professionals. Parents can feel very inadequate when something like this happens, and feel that they're under attack. So they get very defensive. That's what the therapist is for--to maintain objectivity. I had a daughter that cut, and I just fell apart. But I saw that she got to a psychologist. At least she trusted me enough that she told me right away. It doesn't usually happen like that.

Push the "depressed" issue really hard, with whoever you have to. Teacher, parent, school guidance counselor, clergyman, choir director, girl scout leader, whoever. The trick is to get to see someone you trust so you can confide that you really want to stop cutting.

You don't necessarily have to tell your parents in order to do that. At least, not right away. And not without someone on your side.

I'm on your side. I'll cheer you on. You want to get help? That doesn't sound crazy to me; that sounds pretty brave.

Answer 3

How did you ever tell your parents even once? You are so much stronger than I ever was. Now call on that strength again. If you are so concerned with your parents being upset with you or thinking you are crazy then why not suggest a few sessions as a family. That should give you a safe place to tell them how you feel and have a therapist there to validate your responses.

Answer 4

Well, theres no nice way to put this but, you have to ether stop on your own or tell your parents you need to see a therapists because you feel stressed out and then tell the therapist. If you just show your parents your cut marks, then they will think your crazy , but if a therapist tells them, then you might be able to get help instead of getting called crazy.

Answer 5

Don't be ashamed. Cutting is a real problem. It's so good to hear that you want to end this problem. Tell your parents ASAP to just get it over with so you can move on with your life. I'm not really sure how you should do it, depending on what makes you more comfortable, verbally telling them or writing them a letter... Just be open and honest and let them know that you need their support. Good luck!

Answer 6

You're asking for help; that's healthy, not crazy? No, angry and frustrated; to the point that you're hurting yourself, again. I can only suggest you sit down with your parent(s) or some known and trusted adult; tell them what you're doing, that you want professional help because you aren't able to stop yourself and you want to stop. You, also, need to understand why, because this is scaring you. Say what you've said here.

As long as you're writing, you can't cut; so, try to choose writing instead of cutting, until you get help.

Answer 7

My niece is a cutter as well. If you are really wanting help, then GET HELP! TELL YOUR PARENTS! You aren't crazy, but you certainly have a mental problem going on! A serious one! In the literature that I have read about cutting, you want to make the pain to stop that is on the inside. What has hurt you so much, that it won't stop? My niece was sexually abused, and lives in a very dysfunctional family. She has a lot of support, but chooses to not use it, because she likes her "dark side." Do you? If so, then you are severely depressed, and need medication. Part of her problem is also the music she listens to, which is all about death. When you are putting this CRAP in your mind, then that is what you are going to be thinking about most of the time. You are only what you put in! So get HELP! Go tot he library and read about Cutting; getting help; and then the medications that can help you. But honey, you really have to want to stop cutting if it is going to work. This cutting, in itself, isn't dangerous, unless you cut so deep and get an infection in the cut, but its what it can lead to, lead your thoughts to, suicide that is dangerous for you! It's a sign that you really need help! So, please get help!

Answer 8

My son did cutting.
He said the pain made him forget his emotional pains.
Dating problems. They kept dumping him.

I got him into weightlifting. When you are lifting and HOLDING something heavy, your mind focuses on the weight you are holding ONLY. Afterwards, you feel better about yourself.

After a couple of weeks, he stopped cutting. He still does the weights. And he no longer worries about dating problems or any other problem. Always happy.

Best way to talk to your parents is WRITE to them a letter. Explain why you think you are cutting. Tell them about the weightlifting.

Answer 9

They're your parents and will always love you. I believe that they will be so relieved that you are getting help they won't be mad. You should definitely not hide it because you do need help, and even if you get help and gett better without telling them, if they ever find out, which they will, it will hurt them worse that you kept it from them then it would to let them know about it now. Please talk to them and let them know you are done and want to get help. I promise they will understand. They may be upset just because they are worried about you, but I know it's the best thing. Good luck and I'm glad you are getting help.

Answer 10

sit down and tell them u have a serious problem and need help. if they ask what, say it's personal. i did tht and got help and my parents didnt ask any more questions. but if they push it, dont argue. just come out and tell them.