Mother passed away when I was 11, now I have kids. Anyone else?

Question

My mother passed away unexpectidly when I was 11. Now that I am married with two kids I wish she could see me. I want to ask her so much stuff about when I was a baby and how she handled certain situations. I wish my kids could have met her, she was such a wonderful person. I hope i'm just like her. I don;t know what i'd do without my older sister to help me.
I miss her soooo much. Is there anyone else in the same situation? I'd like to hear your story.

Answer 1

My mother passed when I was 24 and I had a 2 year old son at the time. She was so wonderful with him and I couldn't imagine life without her around. To this day (12 years later) I still cry and wish like hell I could talk to her in person, or just wrap my arms around her one more time and tell her I love her. It's so difficult to lose a loved one, esp. your parent/best friend. She was my strength.
Missing her doesn't get any easier over the years. Now that I have more children that she never got to meet, it makes it all the more difficult. My youngest has her sense of humor. I wish she was here to share that with him.. they would have a ball together! Just thinking about what she's missing, what they're missing not having her around makes me cry.
BUT, I do know that she's watching from above and keeping us safe. I feel her around me and sometimes, (this is going to sound weird) I can 'smell' her in the room. Some don't believe in this and I think that's sad. It's sad to think death is "it" and after that, there's nothing. I choose to believe she's in a wonderful place where she'll always be young and no longer in pain. I also choose to believe she is near me each day, guiding me in my decisions about my kids and my life. I talk to her and no, I'm not insane. Talking to her helps me to feel she's not gone, but just away for a while.. until I can see her again.
Just keep her memory alive with your children. Show them pictures and tell stories about when you were a child and she was still with you. I believe it's very important to continue to talk about a passed loved one and share memories. If we don't do that, then we're essentially acting as if they never existed, and that is just not true.
All my best to you and your family. I know how hard this is on you. Just remember, she's up there, watching, praying, keeping you and your babies safe.
God Bless.

Answer 2

OK I dont have the same story nor do I have kids. I was adopted along with my twin to the best parents. We are now 47 years old and they died five years ago. I had an awful abusive husband but got divorced after she died and met someone who is awesome that I am engaged to now. I wish so much that she was here to meet him. I can totally understand how having kids would be so much more fulfilling with your mom around to see them grow and give you advice and be proud of you. But I do believe she is with you in some way and looking down on you, at this very minute, as you read this......and is saying...Good job sweety

Answer 3

My mom died 4 weeks after my son was born and never saw my daughter. I know exactly how you feel. I also wish I could apologize for all of my rotten behavior as a kid, now that I know what it's like to be a mom. I don't have a sister, but I'm sure that makes it a little easier for you. You have to believe that she is watching you.

Answer 4

My great-grandmother died when my grandmother was 9. My great-grandmother (Grace) was cooking at a stove and her apron caught fire -- all in front of her three children. They all lived on a farm in Nebraska in the 1920s. No phone -- and she was so injured she couldn't go for help. She was alone with the kids until evening when great grandpa came home from the fields. She died that night.

My grandmother (Helen) has talked to me about how hard that was at only 9 and then later on when she had her own family she had to raise without her mother's guidance and support.

As a tribute to Grace, many in my family have named children after her. Helen gave my mother the middle name of Grace. Both my sister and I gave our daughters the middle name of Grace. I have a cousin who named his daughter Grace as well.

I am so glad you have your sister for support. I'm sure you're a great mom and that your mom is smiling down from heaven at you. God bless.

Answer 5

its not exactly the same . but my mother wants nothing to do with me (we havent spoken for 6yrs and she moved so i couldnt fid her)

i know how you feel though about wanting all that valuable advice and seeing how much your babies are like you when you were that age. im expecting my first and i feel so awful that she wont get to see her grankid of meet her future son in law etc

and i needed her most when i had my miscarriges.

it does make you realise though how lucky people are to have a fantastic relationship with thier parents. it worse as i dont even know my dad.

im glad you have a sister to support you, mine took the same view as my mother and i havent spoken to them for a long time. i recently found out i have a brother who i never met!

you can still give your kids all the love though that your mum gave to you. you should talk about her often. show them her pictures.

shes probably looking out for them right now and is extremly happy with how you have managed to have a happy life for yourself.

enjouy the memories. the worst part is they blur with time.

Answer 6

My husband's mother passed away when he was 9 1/2 yrs old. She was killed by her seat belt. He goes to her gravesite and leaves pictures, but he keeps on telling me that she's not there at the site, and she's right above us. Our children have her blood and she runs through their veins so it's like we have her in a way. You can talk to your mom, you might not get a reply, but she is listening.

Answer 7

I was 18 when my mom died, now i have 2 boys and I am married, I am like you I want to ask her how she did a good job raising me. I talk to her a lot in my dreams if that helps.

Answer 8

yes my mother died when i was 12 and i feel the same to i wish my daughter could met her.My mom loved to take pictures so i knew if she was still alive when i delivered my daughter i wouldn't have been able to sleep without her taking pictures lol plus she wasn't there to tell me how to do raise my child or told me how to cleaning a umbilical cord i had to learn from grandma and older cousins

Answer 9

I ought to permit you already know i'm in a matching undertaking. My mom gave up the ghost whilst i replaced into 9 and that i understand how hard of a element it relatively is to pass by way of, to lose your mom so youthful. I took a vow to in no way call every person else mom besides. i do no longer call my mom in regulation "mom" I call her via her call besides. My mom in regulation replaced into very information and has instructed me i will call her despite i'm gentle with calling her. i'm useful your mom in regulation feels the comparable way. I do in spite of the shown fact that rejoice mothers day. I consistently get my mom something or write her a letter for on the present time. i do no longer think of your mom might choose you to end celebrating the day. you ought to rejoice mothers, and your sister and mom in regulation must be no exception. you like them and via no longer celebrating it you're different than for your self from celelbrating something magnificent. you ought to take a clean vow to rejoice the day and to remember the existence and love your mom had for you. i think of she might choose it that way.

Answer 10

my grandpa died before i was even born