Why or Why not?
2006-12-20 13:40:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i assume you are referring to that old adage that means familial relationships and ties should trump any other kind of bonds.
to tell you the truth, i don't think blood always is thicker than water. just because someone is your family does not mean that they care for you more or treat you better than someone who is not blood-related. i'm sure we can all think of countless examples of someone who has been "done wrong" by a family member, sometimes in the most terrible way. in those cases, i have to say that it is okay to cut ties with that person, regardless of the "blood" you might share. why are we so ready to let our family members treat us in ways that, were they not related to us, would have us spitting mad?
on the other hand, i can see how someone would be more willing to give a family member the benefit of the doubt or a second chance than we would for a non-family member. we may have known this family member for our entire lives, and that does mean something. however, would you give the same consideration to your uncle who lives in another state that you see once every 5 years as you would to your mother? that doesn't make much sense to me.
2006-12-20 13:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by Ali D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what you're asking.
If you're asking if your family relationships are more important than friends/lovers/etc., then probably yes. Most people will have contact and some relationship to the family that raised them throughout their entire lives, and that just isn't true for friends/lovers/etc. Those folks, sometimes even if we don't want them to, fade in and out of our lives. Family is generally constant, and that can be a really, really great thing (even when they frustrate us beyond belief sometimes).
On the other hand, each person can define the word family for themselves once they're grown. Some people grow up in lousy family situations and need to sever most or all ties with the people who raised them (or with whom they were raised). Those folks can create a new family for themselves out of friends. In those cases, blood doesn't mean a thing.
2006-12-20 14:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by klutz67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Both my husband and my family are very important to me. The only thing that we ask of each other is love.
My husband's family is very different. Their thinking is that "blood" means "if I need anything, since you are my blood (brother, uncle, in-law,etc.), you must give me what I ask (money, credit card, let me live - free of charge - with you, at moments notice for as long as I want). When they call, he won't answer because he knows that they only want something - and it's not just to chat! They borrow, borrow and never make any attempt to repay, they don't even call just to say HI!
Don't get me wrong. I do care about my husbands family, I just don't care for their "I'm your blood so you have to help me" attitude! BTW - they are not single - they do have spouses, who choose not to work too much!
2006-12-20 18:10:31 · answer #3 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water be case it still stick on your finger.Why water gust falls down.
2006-12-20 13:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! I let my "blood" into my home when they were down and out and they used me up, were ungrateful, and put me in a bad situation where I am about to homeless with a family of six. If you ask me, I'll take the water any day. Give me a tall glass 'cause I'm thirsty!
2006-12-20 14:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by In The Same Boat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only when it comes to my children.
The rest of my family have either used me up, let me down or otherwise emotionally black-mailed/robbed me (not all but most)
For my kids I would do anything, and I hope in a way that does'nt make them feel obliged to ask questions such as this when they are older!
You dont choose your family, which is exactly why you should'nt have to pay all your life for that fact.
With good friends you have earned their love and trust, if family had to as well they would be a damn sight nicer.
2006-12-21 05:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by ii337 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely yes, especially when everything comes down to push and shove time. No matter how tough times get, you will always have family somewhere to fall back on, even when there is no one else to turn to. No matter how bad or whatever you do, family will always be family and no one anywhere can ever change that. Good luck and Merry Christmas
2006-12-20 13:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont, I have family members who I will never speak to again and fantastic friends who I would go to the ends of the earth for. Incidentally, I am very close to most of my family. The notion that you owe someone something just because you are related to them is rediculous.
2006-12-20 13:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by minimouse68 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its depends. Because i am really close with a few of my friends and not really close to some of my family. and i think if it came down to it i would pick my friends aver ceratin family members.
2006-12-20 14:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lauryn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ye.blood is thicker than water.but both are important to our lives. we can't survive without any.
2006-12-20 13:48:12 · answer #10 · answered by chandni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋