my mom is always yelling and im sorry, but im not perfect. she doesn't know how hard i try and when she blames me for something i didn't do, i think it's kinda meaningless to tell her it wasn't me...i could really use some help?
2006-12-20 13:19:31 · 11 answers · asked by baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wish i could help U or tell u some more but i have SAME problem and my mom is xact SAME way!!! One thing work for me 1 time i told her when she was in the middle of yellin at me that i love her and she started crieing and gave me a hug so maybe you could try that!! I feel for you tho because i get blame for things all the time and i know how u feel!! Prayin 4 u!!
Good luck K??
2006-12-20 14:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off how old are you? I went through the same thing when i was a teenager still living at home. It annoyed me, frustrated me but most of all hurt me. My mom was a single parent my entire life, and she did her best, now that im an adult i realize this. It's hard sometimes as a parent, we yell when we do not mean to. It use to be really hard to talk to my mother about her yelling while i still lived at home. What i did was just tried to make sure i did everything i was suppose to, and limited the amount of stuff i wasn't. (no one is perfect, you WILL make mistakes) In the end i knew that i was an alright kid and i did my best. Thats all you can do is your best and one day she will realize you are a great person and hopefully stop all the yelling. My mom and i still argue sometimes and im 23 with twin sons and a baby on the way. Im married, live on my own....but it can still sometimes happen. Just try your best and remember you are doing all you can. Good luck to you. It's tough but you will make it. Try to have a merry christmas!
2006-12-20 15:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to her when she was in a good mood?
*When she starts yelling at you-- say MOM-- you need a hug!!! and then go give her a huge HUG and walk away and clean your room!
**When she starts yelling at you, don't say anything, and when she's done, ask her what you can do to make things easier for her......Mom's don't mean to yell at you!!!!
?Does this happen daily?
PUT notes in her purse that she is special and your only Mamma!
this really works!! get on her good side son! i hope you try some of these suggestions. My dad was an orphan, my mom's bro died when she was 9. and it helped me understand her and him a lot more.
A parent just is scared as you, and needs to know that you are okay, and doens't always know what or how to express that, if she was yelled at, she's a yeller, don't yell back! try catching her in a good mood.
im me if you need help!
Have you asked her what she was like when she was your age?
Have you asked her to get out her year book and share some of her favorite school memories with you?
Have you sent her a card in the mail that says I love you always!
Have you taken out the trash w/o being asked?
Have you offered to clear the table and told her you would do the dishes?
Have you asked her if she would like to watch her favorite all time movie with you? and go to the video store and rent it?
It sounds like your mom is stressed, and you are the first one she sees.
Do not argue with her when she is in the emotional state.
2006-12-20 13:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had some good advice for you because that is what I grew up with. I came to understand that she, my mom, was mentally ill and never treated for it. She refused because she did want to "take pills". Unfortunate there was not trick, not yelling back ticked her off, yelling back ticked her off. you are right it is meaningless to tell her it wasn't you. Your mom might very well be mentally ill. I moved out at 18 and only went back for holiday dinners. I didn't cut her out entirely but she was not on my list of prioities later on. She eventually calmed down but the damage was done. My sister and I always said the same thing we love her because she's mom but we don't like her and it is hard to love some one you don't like. Sorry no good advice but wanted to let you know you are not alone, be strong you will get through.
2006-12-20 13:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not responsible for your mother's happiness. You are responsible for being the best daughter you can be by obeying, helping around the house, not talking back, and being respectful to her even if/when she isn't respectful. Where's your father? Could he give you any help? Perhaps your mother is overwhelmed with her responsibilities and is stressed out. Please don't add to her problems. Ask her what you can do to help her. Then try to do it. Some day you'll be glad you did.
2006-12-20 13:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 16:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Do live with your parents? Do you have to?
It's obviously harder if you're still there. But if you're mom's being unreasonable, I would just do the bare minimum to keep her yap shut, then, when you finally move out, ignore her.
Because, trust me, you're *never* gonna make her happy. No one and nothing will.
2006-12-20 13:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some good ear plugs. ;o) Sometimes it's actually better not to argue back. Just stand there let her get it out of her system and then go on your way. Maybe she'll start realizing then that she just might be wrong. ;o) good luck to you.
2006-12-20 13:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to stay out of her was as much as possible. And get a part time job or after school activities.
2006-12-20 14:46:48 · answer #9 · answered by queendebadow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do something that gives you proof that you did it. like a reciept. and if some thing bad happens when you where doing whatever you were doing you will have evidense that is was not you and she will have to belive you and trust you from know on.
2006-12-20 13:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋